Kumain sa isang sosyal na restaurant sina Erap at FVR.
"Give me Swiss Steak and French Fries"
order ni FVR sa ingles.
"And you Sir? tanong ng waiter.
"The same, Give me sweepstake and first prize, too"
sagot ni Erap
Erap jokes: Fries
FRIES
Kumain sa isang sosyal na restaurant sina Erap at FVR.
"Give me Swiss Steak and French Fries"
order ni FVR sa ingles.
"And you Sir? tanong ng waiter.
"The same, Give me sweepstake and first prize, too"
sagot ni Erap
Kumain sa isang sosyal na restaurant sina Erap at FVR.
"Give me Swiss Steak and French Fries"
order ni FVR sa ingles.
"And you Sir? tanong ng waiter.
"The same, Give me sweepstake and first prize, too"
sagot ni Erap
Belief in others
09.30.2008
~Belief in Others. It can be your attitude; your resolve, that can lift someone up when they are down. Their doubt can be erased by your confidence. And something else amazing happens: belief is contagious – the more you believe in others; the more you will continue to believe in yourself~
~Belief in Others. It can be your attitude; your resolve, that can lift someone up when they are down. Their doubt can be erased by your confidence. And something else amazing happens: belief is contagious – the more you believe in others; the more you will continue to believe in yourself~
A NICE STORY TO SHARE
My mom only had one eye. I hated her... She was such an embarrassment. .
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
Say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only
Has one eye!'
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear..
I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a
Laughing stock, why don't you just die?'
My mom did not respond....
I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because
I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her..
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
Mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
Grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at
Her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my
Children!'
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'
And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
Gotten the wrong address,'
And she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.
'My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and
Scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
Growing up.
You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
Lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
Having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.
Send this to at least 10 people in the next 5 minutes to show you love your mother.
If you don't then it shows you have no heart
Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day
Will be their last, or your own.
Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones
Because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings
Peace...
'I asked God, 'How do I get the best out of life?'
God said, 'Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with
confidence. And prepare for the future without fear!'
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
Say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only
Has one eye!'
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear..
I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a
Laughing stock, why don't you just die?'
My mom did not respond....
I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because
I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her..
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
Mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
Grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at
Her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my
Children!'
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'
And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
Gotten the wrong address,'
And she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.
'My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and
Scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
Growing up.
You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
Lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
Having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.
Send this to at least 10 people in the next 5 minutes to show you love your mother.
If you don't then it shows you have no heart
Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day
Will be their last, or your own.
Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones
Because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings
Peace...
'I asked God, 'How do I get the best out of life?'
God said, 'Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with
confidence. And prepare for the future without fear!'
Love codes ni Erap
LOVE CODES sa panliligaw ni Erap,
mahilig siyang sumulat ng coded love
messages tulad ng:
ITALY - I truly adore and love you
SASAYA - Stay as Sweet as you are
Para lalong bumilib and kanyang nililigawan ,
sinikap niyang gumawa ng "love letter" na gamit and alphabet:
ABC - Always be carefulDEF - Don't Ever forget
GHI - Go Home Immediately
JKLM - Just Keep Loving Me
NOPQRSTUVW - No One Perfectly Quite Romantic Should Treat U Very Well
Napa-whew at pinagpawisan si Erap.
Tatlong titik na lang andnatitira...XYZ.
Pinag-isipan ito nang husto ni Erap.
Makalipas ang oras,napangiti siya at pinalakpakan ang kanyang sarili bago sinulat ang:
XYZ - Xee You Zoon!!
mahilig siyang sumulat ng coded love
messages tulad ng:
ITALY - I truly adore and love you
SASAYA - Stay as Sweet as you are
Para lalong bumilib and kanyang nililigawan ,
sinikap niyang gumawa ng "love letter" na gamit and alphabet:
ABC - Always be carefulDEF - Don't Ever forget
GHI - Go Home Immediately
JKLM - Just Keep Loving Me
NOPQRSTUVW - No One Perfectly Quite Romantic Should Treat U Very Well
Napa-whew at pinagpawisan si Erap.
Tatlong titik na lang andnatitira...XYZ.
Pinag-isipan ito nang husto ni Erap.
Makalipas ang oras,napangiti siya at pinalakpakan ang kanyang sarili bago sinulat ang:
XYZ - Xee You Zoon!!
How to Handle Criticism
by Real Simple, on Mon Oct 27, 2008 11:26am PDT
Think of criticism as a gift, then follow these steps, and you'll bestow and receive it with ease
Greg ClarkeI'll never forget the first performance review I ever received. I wish I could. I was 25 years old and a marketing planner at Avon (a company that I miraculously stayed with for more than 20 years), and it was a doozy. The review lasted 2 1/2 hours, and by the time it was over I had a terrible migraine, felt like throwing up, and asked my boss (we'll call him Ken) if I should leave the company.
What went wrong? Well, for one thing, Ken wasn't much older than I was, and he'd had about as much practice giving feedback as I'd had getting it. He quickly glossed over my single strong point and hammered away at my major weakness: "You're certainly creative, Gail. But you've got a lack of knowledge about the operational side of our business. A total lack of knowledge."
As for me, I was so busy taking everything personally and being appalled that I was so very far from perfect that I barely heard anything except the negative criticism. I can still remember the look on Ken's face when I asked if I should resign. He went white. I went home in tears and told my husband, Jim, that I would have to find another job. What a disaster!
It doesn't matter whether you're at work or at home ("You just can't seem to meet a deadline"; "Honey, you never put out the trash"). Giving -- and taking -- criticism is a tricky business. Chastise instead of motivate and the situation can backfire. On the receiving end, our instinct to bristle and get defensive can ruin a real opportunity to make a positive change. But, as with most things, it doesn't have to be hard.
The number one ingredient for success is to treat the "feedback moment" for what it is: a gift.
I mean, how amazing would it be if we actually had the power to see ourselves as others see us? We don't, of course, so we have to rely on others to give us feedback so we can catch a glimpse. Once you adopt the mind-set that criticism really is something to be given and received -- and to be grateful for -- the whole exchange can be, well, almost enjoyable. Here's how to make it work for you.
Three Steps for Taking Feedback
Step 1: Listen Up!
There's no way to overemphasize this point. Don't argue or take the "But that's not true, what about…?" stance. Remember -- just about everyone needs a little adjustment now and then.
At the Office: If you can, take notes so you can review them later. Look for the nuggets of wisdom. You don't have to agree with everything; just don't disagree out loud. You can always request another meeting if, after calm consideration, you want to revisit some points. (Even then, try not to complain. Take a positive approach: "These layoffs in our department are keeping us from getting work done on time. If you could be a little flexible about deadlines, that would be terrific.") (Learn What Not to Tell Your Boss.)
At Home: Recently, Abigail, our younger daughter, said, "Mom, when you tell a story, you go on and on. You need to get to the point sooner." I blurted out, "No, I don't," and explained why my method was right.
"Just trying to help," she said.
Don't do what I did. Assume the feedback giver has a good point and try his or her suggestion on for size.
Step 2: Resist The Temptation to Prove Them Wrong.
Look -- you can always get someone to call the feedback "bunk." And then you can decide not to make any changes at all. (Good luck with that approach.)
At the Office: Don't run to a coworker and say, "You're never going to believe what so-and-so said about me." You'll find plenty of people who will agree with you if you look for them. Don't look.
At Home: It's the same deal. The minute Abigail offered her critique of my storytelling, I ran to Jim, who, fearing for his life, said, "I think your stories are perfect the way they are." Giving me the perfect excuse to do nothing. (Learn How to Handle Sticky Parenting Situations.)
Step 3: Be Open to Making Significant Changes.
Maybe there are more effective ways for you to come across that are different from your standard act. And maybe you can learn some new skills and adopt some new techniques without compromising who you already are. You're not stuck with any one style of communicating, managing, or mothering. You can change anything, anytime you want to. And it just might be fun -- even rewarding.
At the Office: The key here is to think, Sure, I can do that. And then go ahead and say it. It will be music to your manager's ears.
At Home: Well, Abigail was right, as it turns out. And I'm working on it. I may have the gift of the gab, but she gave me a great gift with her feedback. And with that in mind, well, I'd better leave it right there.
Written by Gail Blanke for Real Simple.
Think of criticism as a gift, then follow these steps, and you'll bestow and receive it with ease
Greg ClarkeI'll never forget the first performance review I ever received. I wish I could. I was 25 years old and a marketing planner at Avon (a company that I miraculously stayed with for more than 20 years), and it was a doozy. The review lasted 2 1/2 hours, and by the time it was over I had a terrible migraine, felt like throwing up, and asked my boss (we'll call him Ken) if I should leave the company.
What went wrong? Well, for one thing, Ken wasn't much older than I was, and he'd had about as much practice giving feedback as I'd had getting it. He quickly glossed over my single strong point and hammered away at my major weakness: "You're certainly creative, Gail. But you've got a lack of knowledge about the operational side of our business. A total lack of knowledge."
As for me, I was so busy taking everything personally and being appalled that I was so very far from perfect that I barely heard anything except the negative criticism. I can still remember the look on Ken's face when I asked if I should resign. He went white. I went home in tears and told my husband, Jim, that I would have to find another job. What a disaster!
It doesn't matter whether you're at work or at home ("You just can't seem to meet a deadline"; "Honey, you never put out the trash"). Giving -- and taking -- criticism is a tricky business. Chastise instead of motivate and the situation can backfire. On the receiving end, our instinct to bristle and get defensive can ruin a real opportunity to make a positive change. But, as with most things, it doesn't have to be hard.
The number one ingredient for success is to treat the "feedback moment" for what it is: a gift.
I mean, how amazing would it be if we actually had the power to see ourselves as others see us? We don't, of course, so we have to rely on others to give us feedback so we can catch a glimpse. Once you adopt the mind-set that criticism really is something to be given and received -- and to be grateful for -- the whole exchange can be, well, almost enjoyable. Here's how to make it work for you.
Three Steps for Taking Feedback
Step 1: Listen Up!
There's no way to overemphasize this point. Don't argue or take the "But that's not true, what about…?" stance. Remember -- just about everyone needs a little adjustment now and then.
At the Office: If you can, take notes so you can review them later. Look for the nuggets of wisdom. You don't have to agree with everything; just don't disagree out loud. You can always request another meeting if, after calm consideration, you want to revisit some points. (Even then, try not to complain. Take a positive approach: "These layoffs in our department are keeping us from getting work done on time. If you could be a little flexible about deadlines, that would be terrific.") (Learn What Not to Tell Your Boss.)
At Home: Recently, Abigail, our younger daughter, said, "Mom, when you tell a story, you go on and on. You need to get to the point sooner." I blurted out, "No, I don't," and explained why my method was right.
"Just trying to help," she said.
Don't do what I did. Assume the feedback giver has a good point and try his or her suggestion on for size.
Step 2: Resist The Temptation to Prove Them Wrong.
Look -- you can always get someone to call the feedback "bunk." And then you can decide not to make any changes at all. (Good luck with that approach.)
At the Office: Don't run to a coworker and say, "You're never going to believe what so-and-so said about me." You'll find plenty of people who will agree with you if you look for them. Don't look.
At Home: It's the same deal. The minute Abigail offered her critique of my storytelling, I ran to Jim, who, fearing for his life, said, "I think your stories are perfect the way they are." Giving me the perfect excuse to do nothing. (Learn How to Handle Sticky Parenting Situations.)
Step 3: Be Open to Making Significant Changes.
Maybe there are more effective ways for you to come across that are different from your standard act. And maybe you can learn some new skills and adopt some new techniques without compromising who you already are. You're not stuck with any one style of communicating, managing, or mothering. You can change anything, anytime you want to. And it just might be fun -- even rewarding.
At the Office: The key here is to think, Sure, I can do that. And then go ahead and say it. It will be music to your manager's ears.
At Home: Well, Abigail was right, as it turns out. And I'm working on it. I may have the gift of the gab, but she gave me a great gift with her feedback. And with that in mind, well, I'd better leave it right there.
Written by Gail Blanke for Real Simple.
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