Heart Attacks And Drinking Warm Water
This is a very good article. Not only about the warm water after your meal, but about Heart Attacks .
The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals, not cold water, maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating. For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.
Common Symptoms Of Heart Attack...
A serious note about heart attacks - You should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting . Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line . You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know, the better chance we could survive.
A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this message sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. Read this & Send to a friend. It could save a life. So, please be a true friend and send this article to all your friends you care about.
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lesson in Catholic History: Twelve Days of Christmas Explained
There is one Christmas Carol that has always baffled me. What in the world do leaping lords, French hens, swimming swans, and especially the partridge who won't come out of the pear tree have to do with Christmas?
Today, I found out.
From 1558 until 1829, Roman Catholics in England were not permitted to practice their faith openly. Someone during that era wrote this carol as a catechism song for young Catholics. It has two levels of meaning: the surface meaning plus a hidden meaning known only to members of their church. Each element in the carol has a code word for a religious reality which the children could remember..
1 - The partridge in a pear tree was Jesus Christ.
2 - Two turtle doves were the Old and New Testaments.
3 - Three French hens stood for faith, hope and love.
4 - The four calling birds were the four gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke & John.
5 - The five golden rings recalled the Torah or Law, the first five books of the Old Testament.
6 - The six geese a-laying stood for the six days of creation.
7 - Seven swans a-swimming represented the sevenfold gifts of the Holy Spirit: Prophesy, Serving, Teaching, Exhortation, Contribution, Leadership, and Mercy.
8 - The eight maids a-milking were the eight beatitudes.
9 - Nine ladies dancing were the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self Control.
10 - The ten lords a-leaping were the ten commandments.
11 - The eleven pipers piping stood for the eleven faithful disciples.
12 - The twelve drummers drumming symbolized the twelve points of belief in the Apostle's Creed.
So there is your history for today. This knowledge was shared with me and I found it interesting and enlightening and now I know how that strange song became a Christmas Carol .
Nice to know the meaning! For your information, please.
Today, I found out.
From 1558 until 1829, Roman Catholics in England were not permitted to practice their faith openly. Someone during that era wrote this carol as a catechism song for young Catholics. It has two levels of meaning: the surface meaning plus a hidden meaning known only to members of their church. Each element in the carol has a code word for a religious reality which the children could remember..
1 - The partridge in a pear tree was Jesus Christ.
2 - Two turtle doves were the Old and New Testaments.
3 - Three French hens stood for faith, hope and love.
4 - The four calling birds were the four gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke & John.
5 - The five golden rings recalled the Torah or Law, the first five books of the Old Testament.
6 - The six geese a-laying stood for the six days of creation.
7 - Seven swans a-swimming represented the sevenfold gifts of the Holy Spirit: Prophesy, Serving, Teaching, Exhortation, Contribution, Leadership, and Mercy.
8 - The eight maids a-milking were the eight beatitudes.
9 - Nine ladies dancing were the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self Control.
10 - The ten lords a-leaping were the ten commandments.
11 - The eleven pipers piping stood for the eleven faithful disciples.
12 - The twelve drummers drumming symbolized the twelve points of belief in the Apostle's Creed.
So there is your history for today. This knowledge was shared with me and I found it interesting and enlightening and now I know how that strange song became a Christmas Carol .
Nice to know the meaning! For your information, please.
I just received a call from my DAD today. It is something that I always look forward to. I really missed my family so much. Every time a got a call from them,it always bring tears to my eyes.
Even though we are oceans apart, we make sure that we do keep in touch from time to time.
Wouldn't life be so much good if your parents are living near you or within your reach. You can easily share your dreams, your joys, your fears, your sadness, your pains and your triumph.
During the lowest point in my life, it is in them that I get my strenght to go on.
They are not a perfect couple, nor a perfect parents. But they have gone through a lot of life's challenges. Their views may not always agree with one another but its their mutual respect for each other that they can achieved a win-win situation.
I am just starting to take the road that they had taken years ago. I hope some day my children will look at me with the same admiration as I have with my parents.
Even though we are oceans apart, we make sure that we do keep in touch from time to time.
Wouldn't life be so much good if your parents are living near you or within your reach. You can easily share your dreams, your joys, your fears, your sadness, your pains and your triumph.
During the lowest point in my life, it is in them that I get my strenght to go on.
They are not a perfect couple, nor a perfect parents. But they have gone through a lot of life's challenges. Their views may not always agree with one another but its their mutual respect for each other that they can achieved a win-win situation.
I am just starting to take the road that they had taken years ago. I hope some day my children will look at me with the same admiration as I have with my parents.
Tablecloth
Beautiful story.... makes you understand that things happen for a reason
The brand new pastor and his wife, newly assigned to their first ministry, to reopen a church
in suburban Brooklyn , arrived in early October excited about their opportunities When they saw
their church, it was very run down and needed much work. They set a goal to have everything
done in time to have their first service on Christmas Eve.
They worked hard, repairing pews, plastering walls, painting, etc, and on December 18
were ahead of schedule and just about finished.
On December 19 a terrible tempest - a driving rainstorm hit the area and lasted for two days.
On the 21st, the pastor went over to the church. His heart sank when he saw that the roof had
leaked, causing a large area of plaster about 20 feet by 8 feet to fall off the fron t wall of the
sanctuary just behind the pulpit, beginning about head high.
The pastor cleaned up the mess on the floor, and not knowing what else to do but postpone
the Christmas Eve service, headed home. On the way he noticed that a local business was
having a flea market type sale for charity so he stopped in. One of the items was a beautiful,
handmade, ivory colored, crocheted tablecloth with exquisite work, fine colors and a Cross
embroidered right in the center. It was just the right size to cover up the hole in the front
wall. He bought it and headed back to the church.
By this time it had started to snow. An older woman running from the opposite direction was
trying to catch the bus.. She missed it. The pastor invited her to wait in the warm church for
the next bus 45 minutes later.
She sat in a pew and paid no attention to the pastor while he got a ladder, hangers, etc., to put
up the tablecloth as a wall tapestry. The pastor could hardly believe how beautiful it looked and
it covered up the entire problem area.
Then he noticed the woman walking down the center aisle. Her face was like a sheet.. "Pastor,"
she asked, "where did you get that tablecloth?"
The pastor explained. The woman asked him to check the lower right corner to see if the initials, EBG were crocheted into it there. They were. These were the initials of the woman, and she had
made this tablecloth 35 years before, in Austria
The woman could hardly believe it as the pastor told how he had just gotten the Tablecloth. The
woman explained that before the war she and her husband were well-to-do people in Austria .
When the Nazis came, she was forced to leave. Her husband was going to follow her the next week.
He was captured, sent to prison and never saw her husband or her home again.
The pastor wanted to give her the tablecloth; but she made the pastor keep it for the church.
The pastor insisted on driving her home, that was the least he could do.. She lived on the other
side of Staten Island and was only in Brooklyn for the day for a housecleaning job.
What a wonderful service they had on Christmas Eve. The church was almost full. The music and the
spirit were great. At the end of the service, the pastor and his wife greeted everyone at the door and many said that they would return.
One older man, whom the pastor recognized from the neighborhood continued to sit in one of the
pews and stare, and the pastor wondered why he wasn't leaving.
The man asked him where he got the tablecloth on the front wall because it was identical to one
that his wife had made years ago when they lived in Austria before the war and how
could there be two tablecloths so much alike.
He told the pastor how the Nazis came, how he forced his wife to flee for her safety and he was
supposed to follow her, but he was arrested and put in a prison.. He never saw his wife or his home again all the 35 years in between.
The pastor asked him if he would allow him to take him for a little ride. They drove to Staten
Island and to the same house where the pastor had taken the woman three days earlier.
He helped the man climb the three flights of stairs to the woman's apartment, knocked on
the door and he saw the greatest Christmas reunion he could ever imagine.
True Story - submitted by Pastor Rob Reid
Who says God does not work in mysterious ways..
I asked the Lord to bless you as I prayed for you today,
to guide you and protect you as you go along your way.
His love is always with you, His promises are true,
and when we give Him all our cares you know He will see us through.
So when the road you're traveling on seems difficult at best..
Just remember I'm here praying and God will do the rest.
W hen there is nothing left but God, that is when
you find out that God is all you need. Take 60
seconds and give this a shot!
All you do is simply say a small prayer:
F ather, God, bless all my friends and family in what
ever it is that You know they may be needing this
day! May their life be full of your peace,
prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a
closer relationship with you. Amen.
The brand new pastor and his wife, newly assigned to their first ministry, to reopen a church
in suburban Brooklyn , arrived in early October excited about their opportunities When they saw
their church, it was very run down and needed much work. They set a goal to have everything
done in time to have their first service on Christmas Eve.
They worked hard, repairing pews, plastering walls, painting, etc, and on December 18
were ahead of schedule and just about finished.
On December 19 a terrible tempest - a driving rainstorm hit the area and lasted for two days.
On the 21st, the pastor went over to the church. His heart sank when he saw that the roof had
leaked, causing a large area of plaster about 20 feet by 8 feet to fall off the fron t wall of the
sanctuary just behind the pulpit, beginning about head high.
The pastor cleaned up the mess on the floor, and not knowing what else to do but postpone
the Christmas Eve service, headed home. On the way he noticed that a local business was
having a flea market type sale for charity so he stopped in. One of the items was a beautiful,
handmade, ivory colored, crocheted tablecloth with exquisite work, fine colors and a Cross
embroidered right in the center. It was just the right size to cover up the hole in the front
wall. He bought it and headed back to the church.
By this time it had started to snow. An older woman running from the opposite direction was
trying to catch the bus.. She missed it. The pastor invited her to wait in the warm church for
the next bus 45 minutes later.
She sat in a pew and paid no attention to the pastor while he got a ladder, hangers, etc., to put
up the tablecloth as a wall tapestry. The pastor could hardly believe how beautiful it looked and
it covered up the entire problem area.
Then he noticed the woman walking down the center aisle. Her face was like a sheet.. "Pastor,"
she asked, "where did you get that tablecloth?"
The pastor explained. The woman asked him to check the lower right corner to see if the initials, EBG were crocheted into it there. They were. These were the initials of the woman, and she had
made this tablecloth 35 years before, in Austria
The woman could hardly believe it as the pastor told how he had just gotten the Tablecloth. The
woman explained that before the war she and her husband were well-to-do people in Austria .
When the Nazis came, she was forced to leave. Her husband was going to follow her the next week.
He was captured, sent to prison and never saw her husband or her home again.
The pastor wanted to give her the tablecloth; but she made the pastor keep it for the church.
The pastor insisted on driving her home, that was the least he could do.. She lived on the other
side of Staten Island and was only in Brooklyn for the day for a housecleaning job.
What a wonderful service they had on Christmas Eve. The church was almost full. The music and the
spirit were great. At the end of the service, the pastor and his wife greeted everyone at the door and many said that they would return.
One older man, whom the pastor recognized from the neighborhood continued to sit in one of the
pews and stare, and the pastor wondered why he wasn't leaving.
The man asked him where he got the tablecloth on the front wall because it was identical to one
that his wife had made years ago when they lived in Austria before the war and how
could there be two tablecloths so much alike.
He told the pastor how the Nazis came, how he forced his wife to flee for her safety and he was
supposed to follow her, but he was arrested and put in a prison.. He never saw his wife or his home again all the 35 years in between.
The pastor asked him if he would allow him to take him for a little ride. They drove to Staten
Island and to the same house where the pastor had taken the woman three days earlier.
He helped the man climb the three flights of stairs to the woman's apartment, knocked on
the door and he saw the greatest Christmas reunion he could ever imagine.
True Story - submitted by Pastor Rob Reid
Who says God does not work in mysterious ways..
I asked the Lord to bless you as I prayed for you today,
to guide you and protect you as you go along your way.
His love is always with you, His promises are true,
and when we give Him all our cares you know He will see us through.
So when the road you're traveling on seems difficult at best..
Just remember I'm here praying and God will do the rest.
W hen there is nothing left but God, that is when
you find out that God is all you need. Take 60
seconds and give this a shot!
All you do is simply say a small prayer:
F ather, God, bless all my friends and family in what
ever it is that You know they may be needing this
day! May their life be full of your peace,
prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a
closer relationship with you. Amen.
People come into your life
People come into your life for a
REASON, A SEASON or A LIFETIME.
When you know which one it is,
you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.
you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or
at an inconvenient time, this person will say or
do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been
met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered
and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime
lessons, things you must build upon in order
to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have
learned to use in all other relationships
and areas of your life. It is said that
love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season
or a lifetime.
Erap jokes
BRIDGE
Nagpunta si Erap sa England at nag-meet sila ng prime minister.
Habang kumakain, nagtanong ang prime minister.
"Is San Juanico Bridge the longest bridge in the Philippines?"
"Yes," mabilis na sagot ni Erap saka biglang nag-isip ng maitatanong
din, "Ah... Is London Bridge falling down?"
Nagpunta si Erap sa England at nag-meet sila ng prime minister.
Habang kumakain, nagtanong ang prime minister.
"Is San Juanico Bridge the longest bridge in the Philippines?"
"Yes," mabilis na sagot ni Erap saka biglang nag-isip ng maitatanong
din, "Ah... Is London Bridge falling down?"
Ang aking Ina
Ang aking Ina ay isang rin inhinyero,
laging tumutulong sa pagluluto sa tatay ko.
Taga-linis ng bahay,
kaya siya ang tinatawag na nanay.
Siya ay maganda kahit pagod pa.
Ilaw ng tahanan ang tawag sa kanya.
Sa aming patutunguhan, taga-gabay siya.
Mga kabuhayan inaalagaan niya.
Mahal ko ang aking ina,
sa pag aaruga, walang tatalo sa kanya.
Siya ang nagwawasto nang mga maling gawain.
Para sa paglaki namin, hindi mali ang gawain namin.
--GIAN--
laging tumutulong sa pagluluto sa tatay ko.
Taga-linis ng bahay,
kaya siya ang tinatawag na nanay.
Siya ay maganda kahit pagod pa.
Ilaw ng tahanan ang tawag sa kanya.
Sa aming patutunguhan, taga-gabay siya.
Mga kabuhayan inaalagaan niya.
Mahal ko ang aking ina,
sa pag aaruga, walang tatalo sa kanya.
Siya ang nagwawasto nang mga maling gawain.
Para sa paglaki namin, hindi mali ang gawain namin.
--GIAN--
Ang aking Ama
Ang aking ama ay isang inhinyero,
na pwede ring mag mekaniko.
Siya ay magaling magluto, ginisa, ihaw or kahit putsero.
Siya ay nagtratrabaho para meron kaming makain.
Tinutulungan niya ako sa aking mga takdang aralin.
Maging magalang, matapang, at mapag-mahal
ay dapat gawain.
Siya ay handang magpatawad at tumulong sa mga suliranin.
Ang tatay ko laging magaling,
kaya siya lang ang para sa akin.
Hindi siya nagpapatawag ng bosing,
pero siya ang haligi sa pamilya namin.
Haligi masasandalan at sumusuporta lagi sa amin.
--GIAN--
na pwede ring mag mekaniko.
Siya ay magaling magluto, ginisa, ihaw or kahit putsero.
Siya ay nagtratrabaho para meron kaming makain.
Tinutulungan niya ako sa aking mga takdang aralin.
Maging magalang, matapang, at mapag-mahal
ay dapat gawain.
Siya ay handang magpatawad at tumulong sa mga suliranin.
Ang tatay ko laging magaling,
kaya siya lang ang para sa akin.
Hindi siya nagpapatawag ng bosing,
pero siya ang haligi sa pamilya namin.
Haligi masasandalan at sumusuporta lagi sa amin.
--GIAN--
Mission Control
Do you have control issues? Do you tell your partner how he or she should drive or how to get things done? Learn how to be comfortable when not in control
By Neil Fiore, Ph.D. Updated: Nov 13, 2007
Question: Why do I feel so uncomfortable when I'm not in control?
Answer:
Control vs. Trust
Like so many counterproductive habits, trying to control others can be a way of coping with insecurities. What's to fear? How about your survival and safety? If your sense of trust in the world -- and in your parents -- was broken at an early age because of natural disasters, illness or war, for example, you learn to cope alone and try to control as much as you can without relying on others. This can cause you to become hyper-vigilant and alert to your surroundings, often making it difficult for you to sleep, enjoy vacations or just relax.
Control Is Addictive
Once you've had a taste of control, you'll find you always need more
Once you've had a taste of control, you'll find you always need more; you won't be able to have enough control to feel secure, safe and invulnerable to loss and pain. Why? Because our security in this world is limited and there's no guarantee that you'll be invulnerable to hurt and loss. If, for example, you have a family history of money worries, you might try to control your partner's spending by creating a strict budget. Trying to control his or her spending won't solve your addiction to control or your insecurity about money. Even having more money won't cure your habit of trying to calm these worries; you'll just be grabbing for more control.
The Solution: Let Go and Discover You're Supported
When you first learn to swim, you use your muscles to struggle and stay afloat. When you're exhausted from all the hard work, you then discover the water holds your body and you can float almost effortlessly. It's the same with learning to let go of struggle and control: you'll find that you are held by the earth, a chair, a bed and your body's ability to relax.
You can begin by experimenting with accepting the fact that
you are human and, therefore, vulnerable to hurt and loss and joyful surprises
you are human and, therefore, vulnerable to hurt and loss and joyful surprises, regardless of how much control you try to have. Some of my most vigilant and controlling clients learned to relax their need for control by first consciously letting go of their breath. They overcame their insomnia and controlling habits very slowly. They began by observing that when you let go of holding your breath and muscles, your body takes care of inhaling, and the chair and the floor support you without much effort on your part. So let's give it a try.
Try Three-part Breathing
Inhale.
Hold your breath while tightening your muscles.
Exhale slowly and completely as you float down into the support of the chair and floor.
Perform this three-part breathing a few more times with your eyes closed so you really feel the experience of letting go and finding that you are supported by the chair, the laws of nature and your body's wisdom.
Repeat this exercise throughout your day whenever you feel insecure or become aware of the impulse to control others. Soon you'll discover you can let go of muscle tension and build a sense of connection with a trustworthy support system. You'll be teaching your body and your conscious mind and ego they don't have to struggle alone. You'll be accessing more of your brainpower, thereby becoming more effective and efficient with less effort. That'll make you breathe easy.
By Neil Fiore, Ph.D. Updated: Nov 13, 2007
Question: Why do I feel so uncomfortable when I'm not in control?
Answer:
Control vs. Trust
Like so many counterproductive habits, trying to control others can be a way of coping with insecurities. What's to fear? How about your survival and safety? If your sense of trust in the world -- and in your parents -- was broken at an early age because of natural disasters, illness or war, for example, you learn to cope alone and try to control as much as you can without relying on others. This can cause you to become hyper-vigilant and alert to your surroundings, often making it difficult for you to sleep, enjoy vacations or just relax.
Control Is Addictive
Once you've had a taste of control, you'll find you always need more
Once you've had a taste of control, you'll find you always need more; you won't be able to have enough control to feel secure, safe and invulnerable to loss and pain. Why? Because our security in this world is limited and there's no guarantee that you'll be invulnerable to hurt and loss. If, for example, you have a family history of money worries, you might try to control your partner's spending by creating a strict budget. Trying to control his or her spending won't solve your addiction to control or your insecurity about money. Even having more money won't cure your habit of trying to calm these worries; you'll just be grabbing for more control.
The Solution: Let Go and Discover You're Supported
When you first learn to swim, you use your muscles to struggle and stay afloat. When you're exhausted from all the hard work, you then discover the water holds your body and you can float almost effortlessly. It's the same with learning to let go of struggle and control: you'll find that you are held by the earth, a chair, a bed and your body's ability to relax.
You can begin by experimenting with accepting the fact that
you are human and, therefore, vulnerable to hurt and loss and joyful surprises
you are human and, therefore, vulnerable to hurt and loss and joyful surprises, regardless of how much control you try to have. Some of my most vigilant and controlling clients learned to relax their need for control by first consciously letting go of their breath. They overcame their insomnia and controlling habits very slowly. They began by observing that when you let go of holding your breath and muscles, your body takes care of inhaling, and the chair and the floor support you without much effort on your part. So let's give it a try.
Try Three-part Breathing
Inhale.
Hold your breath while tightening your muscles.
Exhale slowly and completely as you float down into the support of the chair and floor.
Perform this three-part breathing a few more times with your eyes closed so you really feel the experience of letting go and finding that you are supported by the chair, the laws of nature and your body's wisdom.
Repeat this exercise throughout your day whenever you feel insecure or become aware of the impulse to control others. Soon you'll discover you can let go of muscle tension and build a sense of connection with a trustworthy support system. You'll be teaching your body and your conscious mind and ego they don't have to struggle alone. You'll be accessing more of your brainpower, thereby becoming more effective and efficient with less effort. That'll make you breathe easy.
10 Reasons You're Not Losing That Weight
If losing weight were simple, Spanx would be just a screen name in an S&M chat room. But dieting is complicated: There are even ways to screw up without realizing it. For instance, who would ever think that working out in the a.m. or cranking the AC might be the reason you're not slimming down? Luckily, once you've identified these flubs, fixing them is nowhere near as hard as pulling on a pair of control-top hose.
Roadblock number 1: Always a go-getter, you work out at 6 a.m.
What's wrong with that? Morning workouts are great—if you go to bed at 10 p.m. In a recent study in the American Journal of Epidemiology, women who slept seven or more hours a night were less likely to put on weight than women who didn't. Those who slept only 6 hours a night were 12 percent more likely to gain substantial weight—33 pounds on average over the course of 16 years! (Women who slept a measly five hours had a 32 percent chance of gaining 30 or more pounds.) Other studies have linked lack of sleep to a higher BMI and have found that it negatively affects levels of the appetite-regulating hormones ghrelin and leptin.
Detour: Don't sacrifice your snooze time—not even for an extra-long run. And quality matters more than quantity, so taking a siesta later won't help. "In a 20-minute power nap you don't get into the deep-sleep stage," says Donna Taliaferro, Ph.D., associate professor of nursing at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, who conducts research on sleep and circadian rhythms. "You need to go through the cycles of sleep over a few hours to get the restorative rest that allows your body to work properly." Bottom line: You're better off sleeping through your workout every other day than stumbling to a sunrise Pilates class on too few z's.
By Nancy Gottesman, Women's Health
Roadblock number 2: You're a teetotaler (or a sot!).
What's wrong with that? Alcohol may not be the diet kryptonite you thought it was. Recent research showed that those who have a single drink a couple times a week have a lower risk of becoming obese than either teetotalers or heavy drinkers. Those who consume more than four drinks daily, on the other hand, boost their odds of obesity by 46 percent.
Detour: Go ahead and have a drink; just avoid belly-busters like a 245-calorie piña colada. Instead, raise a glass of heart-smart merlot (123 calories per 5 ounces), Bud Light (110 calories per 12 ounces), champagne (88 calories per 4 ounces), or sake (39 calories per ounce). Or mix a 100-calorie cocktail, like vodka and diet tonic or tequila and club soda. "Just make sure you drink it with some healthy food, such as raw veggies with low-fat dip or whole-wheat pita and hummus," advises Dawn Jackson Blatner, R.D., a spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Eating slows the rise of alcohol in your blood—and cuts the odds you'll drunk-order the deep-fried mozzarella sticks.
Roadblock number 3: You crank the AC.
What's wrong with that? Al Gore wants you to lay off the thermostat to save the planet. Here's how it can save (the shape of) your own ass, too: In a study published in Physiology & Behavior, researchers found that exposure to temperatures above the "thermoneutral zone"—the artificial climate we create with clothes, heating, or air conditioning—decreases our appetite and food intake. "At a slightly uncomfortable 81 degrees, the women in the study experienced a 20 percent decrease in appetite and ate 10 percent less than at 72 degrees," says lead author Margriet S. Westerterp-Plantenga, Ph.D., a professor of food-intake regulation in the department of human biology at Maastricht University in the Netherlands.
Detour: Instead of cranking the air conditioner every time you feel a little warm, learn to endure slightly steamier conditions. Hitting the "off" button is well worth a little discomfort if it helps you lose the saddlebags.
Roadblock number 4: You log extra miles on the treadmill to make up for giant meals.
What's wrong with that? When it comes to dieting, success isn't 90 percent perspiration. You can't achieve lasting weight loss via exercise alone. But a new study in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism found that dieting can shrink your fat zones just as effectively as dieting plus exercise.
Detour: If you try the diet-only approach, you need a clear idea of how much you should be eating. Multiply your weight by 10, then add your weight again to that sum: That gives you the number of calories you need to maintain your current weight without activity. For example, 135 pounds x 10 = 1,350 + 135 = 1,485 calories. Eat more than that regularly, and your "loose-fit" pants won't anymore; eat less, and your muffin top will start melting away. But not so fast—before you burn your gym membership, read on about sarcopenia.
Roadblock number 5: You ignore sarcopenia.
What's wrong with that? Sarcopenia, in case you weren't paying attention to your medical TV dramas, is age-related muscle loss—and it can start in your 30s. If you don't take action now, you could begin to lose as much as 1 to 2 percent of your muscle mass by the time you hit 50. Less muscle means you burn fewer calories and store more of them as fat.
Detour: The key to stopping muscle meltdown is to strengthen your back, shoulders, arms, and thighs. "When you increase lean muscle mass, you burn more calories, even when you're sitting down doing nothing," says Amy Campbell, M.S., R.D., education program manager for health care services at the Joslin Diabetes Center of the Harvard Medical School. Find a strength workout in "Secrets of the Nation's Top Trainers" and start sculpting at least twice a week. And keep it up after you reach your goal weight: Studies show that if you don't exercise regularly (60 minutes of moderate physical activity a day), the pounds can creep back on.
Roadblock number 6: You're shooting for a realistic size 6 instead of a near-impossible 2.What's wrong with that? We know size 2 jeans look like they were made for a 10-year-old, but, according to a study of 1,801 people published in the International Journal of Obesity, women who set unrealistically high weight-loss goals dropped more weight in 24 months than those who kept their expectations low.
Detour: The study authors concluded that having an optimistic goal motivated women to lose more weight. And the participants who failed to reach their magic number did not quit trying to drop the weight. Could aiming for Sienna Miller's figure really help you reach your goal weight healthfully? "If you're a driven person and a lofty goal motivates you," says Blatner, "it can work."
Roadblock number 7: Ever since the recent headlines, you've been popping M&Ms like they're Advil.What's wrong with that? You've heard the news: Cocoa can lower blood pressure; reduce the risk of heart attack, stroke, diabetes, and dementia; and possibly even prevent cancer. But the research isn't as delicious as it seems. The cocoa-bean products used in the studies are a far cry from the highly processed chocolate candy you find on the shelves of your local store. "Milk chocolate contains about 150 calories and 10 grams of fat per ounce," says Campbell.
Detour: The key here is small doses. Dark chocolate, which retains more of the bean during processing, generally has slightly less fat and fewer calories than milk chocolate—plus, it's richer, so less goes a longer way. We like CocoaVia's Crispy Chocolate Bar (90 calories, 5 g. fat) or Hershey's Special Dark Chocolate Stick (60 calories, 3.5 g. fat). If dark doesn't do it for you, opt for low-cal choices such as a half-cup of Breyers French Chocolate Double Churn Fat Free Ice Cream (90 calories, 0 g. fat).
Roadblock number 8: You think "water-rich diet" means more trips to the cooler.
What's wrong with that? Water in your glass is good, but water in your food can have serious slimming power. In a new American Journal of Clinical Nutrition study, obese women ages 20 to 60 were told to either reduce their fat intake or increase their intake of water-rich foods, such as fruits and veggies. Although they ate more, women in the water-rich group chose foods that were more filling—yet had fewer calories—so they still lost 33 percent more weight in the first 6 months than the women in the reduced-fat group.
Detour: Fill up on food that's high in H2O. Some good choices in addition to fruits and veggies: broth-based, low-sodium soups; oatmeal and other whole grains; and beans. For other filling options, consult The Volumetrics Eating Plan: Techniques and Recipes for Feeling Full on Fewer Calories, by Barbara Rolls, Ph.D. (Harper Paperbacks, 2007).
Roadblock number 9: You give up junk food today but put off joining a gym until January.
What's wrong with that? Tackling one goal at a time is supposed to help you succeed. But new research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine bucks that conventional wisdom. In a study of more than 200 people who smoked, had high blood pressure, and weren't extremely active, one group was asked to quit the butts, cut back on dietary sodium, and increase physical activity all at once. Another group addressed one bad habit at a time. The group that tackled all their problems simultaneously had the higher success rate after 18 months.
Detour: Combining your goals may work for the same reason job negotiations do: When you ask for everything, you're more likely to get something. Put this thinking to the test by creating a healthy eating and exercise plan and throwing all your energy into following both.
Roadblock number 10: You never think about potassium.
What's wrong with that? A recent Canadian study concluded that getting more potassium might help lower your weight and blood pressure. Levels measured in study participants were proportional to their diet and weight. "That makes sense," says Blatner. "The richest sources of potassium are beans, vegetables, and fruit, so the person with high potassium levels is consuming a lot of these foods, which are low in calories and are the most filling."
Detour: You should aim for 4,700 milligrams of potassium each day. Supplements may help you hit that target, but doctors don't recommend them for everyone. Try filling up on white beans (1 cup: 1,000 mg. potassium), winter squash (1 cup: 494 mg.), spinach (1 cup: 840 mg.), baked potato with skin (926 mg.), yogurt (1 cup: 600 mg.), halibut (4 ounces: 566 mg.), and orange juice (1 cup: 473 mg.).
Roadblock number 1: Always a go-getter, you work out at 6 a.m.
What's wrong with that? Morning workouts are great—if you go to bed at 10 p.m. In a recent study in the American Journal of Epidemiology, women who slept seven or more hours a night were less likely to put on weight than women who didn't. Those who slept only 6 hours a night were 12 percent more likely to gain substantial weight—33 pounds on average over the course of 16 years! (Women who slept a measly five hours had a 32 percent chance of gaining 30 or more pounds.) Other studies have linked lack of sleep to a higher BMI and have found that it negatively affects levels of the appetite-regulating hormones ghrelin and leptin.
Detour: Don't sacrifice your snooze time—not even for an extra-long run. And quality matters more than quantity, so taking a siesta later won't help. "In a 20-minute power nap you don't get into the deep-sleep stage," says Donna Taliaferro, Ph.D., associate professor of nursing at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, who conducts research on sleep and circadian rhythms. "You need to go through the cycles of sleep over a few hours to get the restorative rest that allows your body to work properly." Bottom line: You're better off sleeping through your workout every other day than stumbling to a sunrise Pilates class on too few z's.
By Nancy Gottesman, Women's Health
Roadblock number 2: You're a teetotaler (or a sot!).
What's wrong with that? Alcohol may not be the diet kryptonite you thought it was. Recent research showed that those who have a single drink a couple times a week have a lower risk of becoming obese than either teetotalers or heavy drinkers. Those who consume more than four drinks daily, on the other hand, boost their odds of obesity by 46 percent.
Detour: Go ahead and have a drink; just avoid belly-busters like a 245-calorie piña colada. Instead, raise a glass of heart-smart merlot (123 calories per 5 ounces), Bud Light (110 calories per 12 ounces), champagne (88 calories per 4 ounces), or sake (39 calories per ounce). Or mix a 100-calorie cocktail, like vodka and diet tonic or tequila and club soda. "Just make sure you drink it with some healthy food, such as raw veggies with low-fat dip or whole-wheat pita and hummus," advises Dawn Jackson Blatner, R.D., a spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Eating slows the rise of alcohol in your blood—and cuts the odds you'll drunk-order the deep-fried mozzarella sticks.
Roadblock number 3: You crank the AC.
What's wrong with that? Al Gore wants you to lay off the thermostat to save the planet. Here's how it can save (the shape of) your own ass, too: In a study published in Physiology & Behavior, researchers found that exposure to temperatures above the "thermoneutral zone"—the artificial climate we create with clothes, heating, or air conditioning—decreases our appetite and food intake. "At a slightly uncomfortable 81 degrees, the women in the study experienced a 20 percent decrease in appetite and ate 10 percent less than at 72 degrees," says lead author Margriet S. Westerterp-Plantenga, Ph.D., a professor of food-intake regulation in the department of human biology at Maastricht University in the Netherlands.
Detour: Instead of cranking the air conditioner every time you feel a little warm, learn to endure slightly steamier conditions. Hitting the "off" button is well worth a little discomfort if it helps you lose the saddlebags.
Roadblock number 4: You log extra miles on the treadmill to make up for giant meals.
What's wrong with that? When it comes to dieting, success isn't 90 percent perspiration. You can't achieve lasting weight loss via exercise alone. But a new study in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism found that dieting can shrink your fat zones just as effectively as dieting plus exercise.
Detour: If you try the diet-only approach, you need a clear idea of how much you should be eating. Multiply your weight by 10, then add your weight again to that sum: That gives you the number of calories you need to maintain your current weight without activity. For example, 135 pounds x 10 = 1,350 + 135 = 1,485 calories. Eat more than that regularly, and your "loose-fit" pants won't anymore; eat less, and your muffin top will start melting away. But not so fast—before you burn your gym membership, read on about sarcopenia.
Roadblock number 5: You ignore sarcopenia.
What's wrong with that? Sarcopenia, in case you weren't paying attention to your medical TV dramas, is age-related muscle loss—and it can start in your 30s. If you don't take action now, you could begin to lose as much as 1 to 2 percent of your muscle mass by the time you hit 50. Less muscle means you burn fewer calories and store more of them as fat.
Detour: The key to stopping muscle meltdown is to strengthen your back, shoulders, arms, and thighs. "When you increase lean muscle mass, you burn more calories, even when you're sitting down doing nothing," says Amy Campbell, M.S., R.D., education program manager for health care services at the Joslin Diabetes Center of the Harvard Medical School. Find a strength workout in "Secrets of the Nation's Top Trainers" and start sculpting at least twice a week. And keep it up after you reach your goal weight: Studies show that if you don't exercise regularly (60 minutes of moderate physical activity a day), the pounds can creep back on.
Roadblock number 6: You're shooting for a realistic size 6 instead of a near-impossible 2.What's wrong with that? We know size 2 jeans look like they were made for a 10-year-old, but, according to a study of 1,801 people published in the International Journal of Obesity, women who set unrealistically high weight-loss goals dropped more weight in 24 months than those who kept their expectations low.
Detour: The study authors concluded that having an optimistic goal motivated women to lose more weight. And the participants who failed to reach their magic number did not quit trying to drop the weight. Could aiming for Sienna Miller's figure really help you reach your goal weight healthfully? "If you're a driven person and a lofty goal motivates you," says Blatner, "it can work."
Roadblock number 7: Ever since the recent headlines, you've been popping M&Ms like they're Advil.What's wrong with that? You've heard the news: Cocoa can lower blood pressure; reduce the risk of heart attack, stroke, diabetes, and dementia; and possibly even prevent cancer. But the research isn't as delicious as it seems. The cocoa-bean products used in the studies are a far cry from the highly processed chocolate candy you find on the shelves of your local store. "Milk chocolate contains about 150 calories and 10 grams of fat per ounce," says Campbell.
Detour: The key here is small doses. Dark chocolate, which retains more of the bean during processing, generally has slightly less fat and fewer calories than milk chocolate—plus, it's richer, so less goes a longer way. We like CocoaVia's Crispy Chocolate Bar (90 calories, 5 g. fat) or Hershey's Special Dark Chocolate Stick (60 calories, 3.5 g. fat). If dark doesn't do it for you, opt for low-cal choices such as a half-cup of Breyers French Chocolate Double Churn Fat Free Ice Cream (90 calories, 0 g. fat).
Roadblock number 8: You think "water-rich diet" means more trips to the cooler.
What's wrong with that? Water in your glass is good, but water in your food can have serious slimming power. In a new American Journal of Clinical Nutrition study, obese women ages 20 to 60 were told to either reduce their fat intake or increase their intake of water-rich foods, such as fruits and veggies. Although they ate more, women in the water-rich group chose foods that were more filling—yet had fewer calories—so they still lost 33 percent more weight in the first 6 months than the women in the reduced-fat group.
Detour: Fill up on food that's high in H2O. Some good choices in addition to fruits and veggies: broth-based, low-sodium soups; oatmeal and other whole grains; and beans. For other filling options, consult The Volumetrics Eating Plan: Techniques and Recipes for Feeling Full on Fewer Calories, by Barbara Rolls, Ph.D. (Harper Paperbacks, 2007).
Roadblock number 9: You give up junk food today but put off joining a gym until January.
What's wrong with that? Tackling one goal at a time is supposed to help you succeed. But new research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine bucks that conventional wisdom. In a study of more than 200 people who smoked, had high blood pressure, and weren't extremely active, one group was asked to quit the butts, cut back on dietary sodium, and increase physical activity all at once. Another group addressed one bad habit at a time. The group that tackled all their problems simultaneously had the higher success rate after 18 months.
Detour: Combining your goals may work for the same reason job negotiations do: When you ask for everything, you're more likely to get something. Put this thinking to the test by creating a healthy eating and exercise plan and throwing all your energy into following both.
Roadblock number 10: You never think about potassium.
What's wrong with that? A recent Canadian study concluded that getting more potassium might help lower your weight and blood pressure. Levels measured in study participants were proportional to their diet and weight. "That makes sense," says Blatner. "The richest sources of potassium are beans, vegetables, and fruit, so the person with high potassium levels is consuming a lot of these foods, which are low in calories and are the most filling."
Detour: You should aim for 4,700 milligrams of potassium each day. Supplements may help you hit that target, but doctors don't recommend them for everyone. Try filling up on white beans (1 cup: 1,000 mg. potassium), winter squash (1 cup: 494 mg.), spinach (1 cup: 840 mg.), baked potato with skin (926 mg.), yogurt (1 cup: 600 mg.), halibut (4 ounces: 566 mg.), and orange juice (1 cup: 473 mg.).
Erap jokes
GROUP
Erap was asked if a group of birds is called a flock
of bird, and a group of fish is called a school of
fish, and a group of wolves is called a pack of
wolves, then what do you call a group of dogs?
Erap: Madali lang yan, anong akala ninyo sa akin tanga!
Di anser is "asociation".
Erap was asked if a group of birds is called a flock
of bird, and a group of fish is called a school of
fish, and a group of wolves is called a pack of
wolves, then what do you call a group of dogs?
Erap: Madali lang yan, anong akala ninyo sa akin tanga!
Di anser is "asociation".
You should know
No matter what happens. You should know in your heart, my love lasts and never leaves.
Things Every Parent Should Make Sure to Teach Their Kids
Honesty & Trust
In my opinion, the single most important part of raising a child is to be honest with them, about everything…always! If your child knows they can trust everything you say, then they will be more likely to trust you, and your judgment, on things that matter most. At age 4 my son asked me if Santa Claus was real. I responded with “what do you thing?” His assumption was correct. I have also learned that saying “I don’t know” is a better response that incorrect information. In the age of the internet you can say I don’t know, but let’s find out. When I talk to my son I speak to him as if he is an adult. If I say a word I think he may not understand, I ask him and explain if he doesn’t. He asks me questions about money, his body, relationships, people with special needs, diseases and even how babies get into a mothers’ tummy. I give him as simple of an answer as I can while still being honest. I occasionally talk to him about “grown-up things,” which he knows to keep private and not talk about outside of our home. These are things like his step-brother’s mom being hateful to my husband, why I left my sons’ father, and other things that may be hurtful or embarrassing if said to certain people. I feel if he is old enough to ask why, then he should get an answer, but it is still something private and should not be discussed with others.
The payoff – Closeness. There is nothing my son can’t talk to me about. He values my opinion and trusts that I will do the right thing.
Selflessness
Putting others before yourself was the moral that I was the most concerned with teaching my son. Children are by nature selfish. It is our job to teach them that they are not the only people whose feeling should be considered in making decisions. I have found that the best way to teach this is by example. On our way home from a night at Chucky Cheese, we came to a red light where there was a homeless man in the median with a sign that read "Hungry, please help." I asked my husband if there were leftovers from dinner. He parked the car, turned on the flashers, and popped the trunk. He hurried over to the man and gave him the to-go box from dinner and jumped back in the car. My son was confused and asked what was going on. We told him that not everyone has enough food to eat, and since we had extra, and this man was hungry, we gave him ours.
My son experienced selflessness at school when he lost his milk money. A girl in his class gave him one of her Yoo-Hoos. We made a big deal about how wonderful it was of her to be so generous and that he should make sure to thank her again for being so kind to him.
The payoff – My son knows that our family is having hard financial times. He gets a $5 allowance for having good behavior all week at school. We currently owe him $10 and I told him I would give it to him tonight. He said to me this morning, “Mommy, you don’t have to give me the $10. You can keep it to help pay bills.” It was all I could do to not burst into tears.
The Golden Rule
I began with telling my son, when I witnessed him being unkind to someone, that acting that way will make people think he is a bad person. I would also discuss with him how he would feel if someone had treated him that way. When he would do something nice for someone, I would make a big deal about what a good person he was for thinking of others. Now, at 7, he gets it. He doesn’t make fun of people; he doesn’t say hurtful things to people; he walks away when people are being unkind to him (though it is still difficult for him to understand why others are unkind); he doesn’t fight, and is very loving and thoughtful without being a pushover.
The payoff – I witnessed the neighbor boy teasing the Ice Cream Man by getting him to stop when he didn’t have ice cream money. He did it several times and the Ice Cream Man finally just drove off. Then the boy started screaming terrible things at the driver as he left. My son was standing next to him and another boy. As the other boy was laughing his head off, my son dropped his head and walked away. He came over to me and I asked him what was wrong. He said he was embarrassed to be friends with those boys because of how they treated that man.
Chivalry, Pride and Good Citizenship
These traits are learned directly from example. My son sees my husband open doors for women, so he does the same. He does not yet understand why ladies should get this special treatment, but likes the acknowledgement he receives for being “such a polite young man.” These types of acknowledgements lead him to feel pride in himself for doing the correct thing.
Acknowledging good behavior, academic effort, physical skill and good citizenship, all reinforce a sense of pride in oneself. This tiny little thing has made a huge difference in my child. He tries harder and goes out of his way to do well, to be thoughtful and help others because he knows it is the right thing to do, and it makes him feel good about himself. Even if I am not there to praise him, he knows I would be proud of him. I cannot stress how deeply I feel about finding a reason to praise children.
Good citizenship, to me, is the duty that comes with being a member of civilized society. Everyone has a responsibility to follow the law, and prevent those who don’t from harming others. Everyone has a duty to protect and defend from harm those who are weaker or less capable, such as the elderly, the mentally challenged, and the very young. This can be a difficult lesson to teach, but a very important one. My son and I once went to visit my friend who was taking care of his 95 year old grandmother. Grandmother could not walk unassisted and could barely still feed herself. She was very bony, and my son later told me she looked like a skeleton. When we went into her room she was noticeable pleased to see a child, and reached out her hand to greet him. He looked at me, as if asking “will she hurt me” and I nodded for him to go ahead. He held her hand and she said how nice and warm his hands felt.
The Payoff - He was terrified of her the entire time, but kept it hidden and began rubbing her hands to warm them up.
It is our job as parents to make sure our children are brave, and that they do the right things. There was an incident near our town where an 18 year old boy assaulted a 14 year old girl on a crowded school bus for 15 minutes, and no one did anything to help her. I thought to myself, “What are parents teaching their children? Are people really so scared and self-centered that they would keep walking if they saw someone being hurt? Well not my son!” I called him down to have a talk. I asked him what he would do if he saw someone hurting another person. He said he would try to help by calling an adult or calling the police. I told him that those are good responses, but I also said that if he felt he was big enough to stop what was going on, he should try. This goes for bullying, fights and other situations where someone is abusing another being. Yes, I know this could put him in harm’s way, but I have to ask myself “What kind of person do I want my son to be? The kind that keeps walking….or the kind that makes a difference? How would he feel if he didn’t help and something terrible happened to the victim?” In my opinion, it is better to be a battered hero than a pristine coward.
Tolerance, Discrimination & Racism
Tolerance is a virtue that even most adults struggle with. I don’t just mean different races, I mean anyone that is different than I am, which everyone is. We have to be tolerant of different belief systems, sexualities, countries, intelligence levels, disabilities, trends, fads and many other things that may not conform to who we are as a person. That doesn’t mean we have to embrace these differences, only learn to live with them in such a way that everyone can be themselves without fear of persecution. That is what our country is all about.
Racism and discrimination are learned behaviors. Unfortunately, my son has had to deal with discrimination. Two of the children in our neighborhood said their parents told them they could not play with my son because he and his family do not believe in God. I explained to him that sometimes when people believe something very strongly, it makes them very uncomfortable to be around other people who don’t believe the same thing. God is one of those things, and so is the thought that people of one skin color are better than people of another skin color. People have been killed, wars have been fought and people have been made slaves because of these beliefs. Even today, some people cannot accept that though we may look, act or think differently, we are really all the same. I’ve taught my son to use color to describe how people look, not what their race they are. He says brown people, tan people, white people instead of black people, Caucasian people or Irish people. People who live in America are Americans; people who live in China are Chinese; people who live in Egypt are Egyptian.
The Payoff - He is interested in people from different countries because he is likes to find out what is different there, and since he finds girls of all races beautiful, it is an excuse to strike up a conversation with all the pretty girls.
Children are a direct reflection of the people who raise them. I was lucky enough to learn these lessons in time to teach my child how to be a good person. Every day he amazes me with his openness, concern for others, and selflessness. He is turning into the kind of person I would be honored to have as a friend, a husband, a father and a role-model. What more can you ask for?
In my opinion, the single most important part of raising a child is to be honest with them, about everything…always! If your child knows they can trust everything you say, then they will be more likely to trust you, and your judgment, on things that matter most. At age 4 my son asked me if Santa Claus was real. I responded with “what do you thing?” His assumption was correct. I have also learned that saying “I don’t know” is a better response that incorrect information. In the age of the internet you can say I don’t know, but let’s find out. When I talk to my son I speak to him as if he is an adult. If I say a word I think he may not understand, I ask him and explain if he doesn’t. He asks me questions about money, his body, relationships, people with special needs, diseases and even how babies get into a mothers’ tummy. I give him as simple of an answer as I can while still being honest. I occasionally talk to him about “grown-up things,” which he knows to keep private and not talk about outside of our home. These are things like his step-brother’s mom being hateful to my husband, why I left my sons’ father, and other things that may be hurtful or embarrassing if said to certain people. I feel if he is old enough to ask why, then he should get an answer, but it is still something private and should not be discussed with others.
The payoff – Closeness. There is nothing my son can’t talk to me about. He values my opinion and trusts that I will do the right thing.
Selflessness
Putting others before yourself was the moral that I was the most concerned with teaching my son. Children are by nature selfish. It is our job to teach them that they are not the only people whose feeling should be considered in making decisions. I have found that the best way to teach this is by example. On our way home from a night at Chucky Cheese, we came to a red light where there was a homeless man in the median with a sign that read "Hungry, please help." I asked my husband if there were leftovers from dinner. He parked the car, turned on the flashers, and popped the trunk. He hurried over to the man and gave him the to-go box from dinner and jumped back in the car. My son was confused and asked what was going on. We told him that not everyone has enough food to eat, and since we had extra, and this man was hungry, we gave him ours.
My son experienced selflessness at school when he lost his milk money. A girl in his class gave him one of her Yoo-Hoos. We made a big deal about how wonderful it was of her to be so generous and that he should make sure to thank her again for being so kind to him.
The payoff – My son knows that our family is having hard financial times. He gets a $5 allowance for having good behavior all week at school. We currently owe him $10 and I told him I would give it to him tonight. He said to me this morning, “Mommy, you don’t have to give me the $10. You can keep it to help pay bills.” It was all I could do to not burst into tears.
The Golden Rule
I began with telling my son, when I witnessed him being unkind to someone, that acting that way will make people think he is a bad person. I would also discuss with him how he would feel if someone had treated him that way. When he would do something nice for someone, I would make a big deal about what a good person he was for thinking of others. Now, at 7, he gets it. He doesn’t make fun of people; he doesn’t say hurtful things to people; he walks away when people are being unkind to him (though it is still difficult for him to understand why others are unkind); he doesn’t fight, and is very loving and thoughtful without being a pushover.
The payoff – I witnessed the neighbor boy teasing the Ice Cream Man by getting him to stop when he didn’t have ice cream money. He did it several times and the Ice Cream Man finally just drove off. Then the boy started screaming terrible things at the driver as he left. My son was standing next to him and another boy. As the other boy was laughing his head off, my son dropped his head and walked away. He came over to me and I asked him what was wrong. He said he was embarrassed to be friends with those boys because of how they treated that man.
Chivalry, Pride and Good Citizenship
These traits are learned directly from example. My son sees my husband open doors for women, so he does the same. He does not yet understand why ladies should get this special treatment, but likes the acknowledgement he receives for being “such a polite young man.” These types of acknowledgements lead him to feel pride in himself for doing the correct thing.
Acknowledging good behavior, academic effort, physical skill and good citizenship, all reinforce a sense of pride in oneself. This tiny little thing has made a huge difference in my child. He tries harder and goes out of his way to do well, to be thoughtful and help others because he knows it is the right thing to do, and it makes him feel good about himself. Even if I am not there to praise him, he knows I would be proud of him. I cannot stress how deeply I feel about finding a reason to praise children.
Good citizenship, to me, is the duty that comes with being a member of civilized society. Everyone has a responsibility to follow the law, and prevent those who don’t from harming others. Everyone has a duty to protect and defend from harm those who are weaker or less capable, such as the elderly, the mentally challenged, and the very young. This can be a difficult lesson to teach, but a very important one. My son and I once went to visit my friend who was taking care of his 95 year old grandmother. Grandmother could not walk unassisted and could barely still feed herself. She was very bony, and my son later told me she looked like a skeleton. When we went into her room she was noticeable pleased to see a child, and reached out her hand to greet him. He looked at me, as if asking “will she hurt me” and I nodded for him to go ahead. He held her hand and she said how nice and warm his hands felt.
The Payoff - He was terrified of her the entire time, but kept it hidden and began rubbing her hands to warm them up.
It is our job as parents to make sure our children are brave, and that they do the right things. There was an incident near our town where an 18 year old boy assaulted a 14 year old girl on a crowded school bus for 15 minutes, and no one did anything to help her. I thought to myself, “What are parents teaching their children? Are people really so scared and self-centered that they would keep walking if they saw someone being hurt? Well not my son!” I called him down to have a talk. I asked him what he would do if he saw someone hurting another person. He said he would try to help by calling an adult or calling the police. I told him that those are good responses, but I also said that if he felt he was big enough to stop what was going on, he should try. This goes for bullying, fights and other situations where someone is abusing another being. Yes, I know this could put him in harm’s way, but I have to ask myself “What kind of person do I want my son to be? The kind that keeps walking….or the kind that makes a difference? How would he feel if he didn’t help and something terrible happened to the victim?” In my opinion, it is better to be a battered hero than a pristine coward.
Tolerance, Discrimination & Racism
Tolerance is a virtue that even most adults struggle with. I don’t just mean different races, I mean anyone that is different than I am, which everyone is. We have to be tolerant of different belief systems, sexualities, countries, intelligence levels, disabilities, trends, fads and many other things that may not conform to who we are as a person. That doesn’t mean we have to embrace these differences, only learn to live with them in such a way that everyone can be themselves without fear of persecution. That is what our country is all about.
Racism and discrimination are learned behaviors. Unfortunately, my son has had to deal with discrimination. Two of the children in our neighborhood said their parents told them they could not play with my son because he and his family do not believe in God. I explained to him that sometimes when people believe something very strongly, it makes them very uncomfortable to be around other people who don’t believe the same thing. God is one of those things, and so is the thought that people of one skin color are better than people of another skin color. People have been killed, wars have been fought and people have been made slaves because of these beliefs. Even today, some people cannot accept that though we may look, act or think differently, we are really all the same. I’ve taught my son to use color to describe how people look, not what their race they are. He says brown people, tan people, white people instead of black people, Caucasian people or Irish people. People who live in America are Americans; people who live in China are Chinese; people who live in Egypt are Egyptian.
The Payoff - He is interested in people from different countries because he is likes to find out what is different there, and since he finds girls of all races beautiful, it is an excuse to strike up a conversation with all the pretty girls.
Children are a direct reflection of the people who raise them. I was lucky enough to learn these lessons in time to teach my child how to be a good person. Every day he amazes me with his openness, concern for others, and selflessness. He is turning into the kind of person I would be honored to have as a friend, a husband, a father and a role-model. What more can you ask for?
How to stay young
A VERY BEAUTIFUL REMINDER . . . TO KEEP US YOUNG . . . FOREVER
1. Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age, weight, and height.
Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay them.
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)
3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle.
"An idle mind is the devil's workshop."
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
4. Enjoy the simple things
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!
6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is yourself.
LIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
"Remember, growing older is mandatory; growing up is optional."
"Good friends are like stars.........You don't always see them, but you know they are always there."
1. Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age, weight, and height.
Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay them.
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)
3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle.
"An idle mind is the devil's workshop."
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
4. Enjoy the simple things
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!
6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is yourself.
LIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
"Remember, growing older is mandatory; growing up is optional."
"Good friends are like stars.........You don't always see them, but you know they are always there."
Dear Anak
Dear Anak,
Naipadala ko na 50 thousand pesos na tuition fee mo, pinagbili na namin ang mga kalabaw natin. Ang mahal pala ng kursong COUNTER STRIKE, wala na din pala tayong baboy naibenta na din para dun sa sinasabi mo na project nyo na NOKIA N75, ang mahal naman ng project nayun.
Kasama din ang 7 thousand dun para sa field trip nyo sa MALL OF ASIA, anak malayo ba yun? mag ingat ka sa pagbibiyahe mo, isasanla palang namin ang palayan natin para mabili mo na yung instrumentong I-POD na kinakailangan mo sa laboratory nyo.
Anak komportable kaba dyan sa boarding house mo san ba kamu yan sa VICTORIA COURT ??? - maganda ba dyan? Di ba mainit dyan?
Anak kamusta na pala yung group project nyo na SANMIG LIGHT? Napailaw nyo na ba? Mataas ba nakuha nyo na grado dun?
Anak sana bago pa maubos ang lahat lahat ng ari arian natin ay maka gradweyt ka na, walong taon ba talaga ang kurso mo sa SECRETARIAL??? Sana pag gradweyt mo makakuha ka ng trabaho kaagad kagaya ng manager ng kumpanya para mabawi natin ang mga ari arian nating nasa sanglaan.
Ay sya nga pala anak diba sabi mo sa JOLLIBEE / MAK DONALD ka palagi kumakain ok ba naman sayo ang mga ulam dyan? Baka hindi masarap kawawa ka naman.
Anak hanggang dito na lang at sa susunod ay ipapadala ko sayo ang pera na pambili mo ng ALTIS na gagamitin mo sa VACANT SUBJECT mo.
Ang nagmamahal
Itang at Inang
P.S. Anak mag aral ka ng mabuti.
Naipadala ko na 50 thousand pesos na tuition fee mo, pinagbili na namin ang mga kalabaw natin. Ang mahal pala ng kursong COUNTER STRIKE, wala na din pala tayong baboy naibenta na din para dun sa sinasabi mo na project nyo na NOKIA N75, ang mahal naman ng project nayun.
Kasama din ang 7 thousand dun para sa field trip nyo sa MALL OF ASIA, anak malayo ba yun? mag ingat ka sa pagbibiyahe mo, isasanla palang namin ang palayan natin para mabili mo na yung instrumentong I-POD na kinakailangan mo sa laboratory nyo.
Anak komportable kaba dyan sa boarding house mo san ba kamu yan sa VICTORIA COURT ??? - maganda ba dyan? Di ba mainit dyan?
Anak kamusta na pala yung group project nyo na SANMIG LIGHT? Napailaw nyo na ba? Mataas ba nakuha nyo na grado dun?
Anak sana bago pa maubos ang lahat lahat ng ari arian natin ay maka gradweyt ka na, walong taon ba talaga ang kurso mo sa SECRETARIAL??? Sana pag gradweyt mo makakuha ka ng trabaho kaagad kagaya ng manager ng kumpanya para mabawi natin ang mga ari arian nating nasa sanglaan.
Ay sya nga pala anak diba sabi mo sa JOLLIBEE / MAK DONALD ka palagi kumakain ok ba naman sayo ang mga ulam dyan? Baka hindi masarap kawawa ka naman.
Anak hanggang dito na lang at sa susunod ay ipapadala ko sayo ang pera na pambili mo ng ALTIS na gagamitin mo sa VACANT SUBJECT mo.
Ang nagmamahal
Itang at Inang
P.S. Anak mag aral ka ng mabuti.
Quit suffering from 'dirty' pain
By Martha Beck
(Oprah.com) -- Think of a problem that has plagued you for a long time -- your weight, a loved one's bad habits, fear of terrorism, whatever. No doubt you've tried valiantly to control this issue, but are your efforts working? The answer has to be no; otherwise you would have solved the problem long ago. What if your real trouble isn't the issue you brood about so compulsively, but the brooding itself?
Psychologists who subscribe to acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) call "clean" pain what we feel when something hurtful happens to us.
"Dirty" pain is the result of our thoughts about how wrong this is, how it proves we -- and life -- are bad.
The two kinds of suffering occupy different sections of the brain: One part simply registers events, while another creates a continuous stream of thoughts about those events.
The vast majority of our unhappiness comes from this secondary response -- not from painful reality, but from painful thoughts about reality. Western psychology is just accepting something saints and mystics have taught for centuries: that this suffering ends only when we learn to detach from the thinking mind.
Get happy! Continue this exercise in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).
Judge not ...
Learning to detach starts with simply noticing our own judgmental thoughts. When we find ourselves using words like should or ought, we're courting dirty pain. Obsessing about what should be rather than accepting what is, we may try to control other people in useless, dysfunctional ways. We may impotently rage against nature itself, even -- perhaps especially -- when that nature is our own.
This amounts to mental suicide. Resisting what we can't control removes us from reality, rendering our emotions, circumstances and loved ones inaccessible. The result is a terrible emptiness, which we usually blame on our failure to get what we want. Actually, it comes from refusing to accept what we have.
Victory by surrender
Surrendering allows the truth to set us free. And how do we surrender? I recently watched television interviews with two actresses, both in their late fifties. Each was asked if she'd found anything good about aging. Both snapped, "No. Nothing. It's horrible."
A few days later, I saw Maya Angelou on TV. She said that aging was "great fun" and gleefully described watching her breasts in their "incredible race to see which one will touch my waist first." "Sure, the body is going," she said. "But so what?"
Ms. Angelou has said many wise things, but I thought "So what?" was one of her wisest. It expressed the sweet detachment of someone who has learned how to rest in her real being and knows that it is made not of flesh or thought, but of love.
The fruits of acceptance
There is enormous relief in detaching from our mental stories, but in my experience, the results go well beyond mere feeling. Surrendering leads directly to our right lives, our hearts' desires. Whenever I've managed to release my scary stories and accept the truth of my life, I've stumbled into more happiness than I ever dreamed possible.
When I stop trying to control my mind -- that verbose, paranoiac old storyteller --my thoughts become clearer and more intelligent. It's a delicious paradox: By not trying to control the uncontrollable, we get what we thought we'd get if we were in control. This thought pleases me greatly. E-mail to a friend
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Martha Beck from "O, The Oprah Magazine," August 2002
(Oprah.com) -- Think of a problem that has plagued you for a long time -- your weight, a loved one's bad habits, fear of terrorism, whatever. No doubt you've tried valiantly to control this issue, but are your efforts working? The answer has to be no; otherwise you would have solved the problem long ago. What if your real trouble isn't the issue you brood about so compulsively, but the brooding itself?
Psychologists who subscribe to acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) call "clean" pain what we feel when something hurtful happens to us.
"Dirty" pain is the result of our thoughts about how wrong this is, how it proves we -- and life -- are bad.
The two kinds of suffering occupy different sections of the brain: One part simply registers events, while another creates a continuous stream of thoughts about those events.
The vast majority of our unhappiness comes from this secondary response -- not from painful reality, but from painful thoughts about reality. Western psychology is just accepting something saints and mystics have taught for centuries: that this suffering ends only when we learn to detach from the thinking mind.
Get happy! Continue this exercise in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).
Judge not ...
Learning to detach starts with simply noticing our own judgmental thoughts. When we find ourselves using words like should or ought, we're courting dirty pain. Obsessing about what should be rather than accepting what is, we may try to control other people in useless, dysfunctional ways. We may impotently rage against nature itself, even -- perhaps especially -- when that nature is our own.
This amounts to mental suicide. Resisting what we can't control removes us from reality, rendering our emotions, circumstances and loved ones inaccessible. The result is a terrible emptiness, which we usually blame on our failure to get what we want. Actually, it comes from refusing to accept what we have.
Victory by surrender
Surrendering allows the truth to set us free. And how do we surrender? I recently watched television interviews with two actresses, both in their late fifties. Each was asked if she'd found anything good about aging. Both snapped, "No. Nothing. It's horrible."
A few days later, I saw Maya Angelou on TV. She said that aging was "great fun" and gleefully described watching her breasts in their "incredible race to see which one will touch my waist first." "Sure, the body is going," she said. "But so what?"
Ms. Angelou has said many wise things, but I thought "So what?" was one of her wisest. It expressed the sweet detachment of someone who has learned how to rest in her real being and knows that it is made not of flesh or thought, but of love.
The fruits of acceptance
There is enormous relief in detaching from our mental stories, but in my experience, the results go well beyond mere feeling. Surrendering leads directly to our right lives, our hearts' desires. Whenever I've managed to release my scary stories and accept the truth of my life, I've stumbled into more happiness than I ever dreamed possible.
When I stop trying to control my mind -- that verbose, paranoiac old storyteller --my thoughts become clearer and more intelligent. It's a delicious paradox: By not trying to control the uncontrollable, we get what we thought we'd get if we were in control. This thought pleases me greatly. E-mail to a friend
Subscribe to O, The Oprah Magazine for up to 75% off the newsstand price. That's like getting 18 issues FREE. Subscribe now!
TM & © 2007 Harpo Productions, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Martha Beck from "O, The Oprah Magazine," August 2002
Erap jokes: Fries
FRIES
Kumain sa isang sosyal na restaurant sina Erap at FVR.
"Give me Swiss Steak and French Fries"
order ni FVR sa ingles.
"And you Sir? tanong ng waiter.
"The same, Give me sweepstake and first prize, too"
sagot ni Erap
Kumain sa isang sosyal na restaurant sina Erap at FVR.
"Give me Swiss Steak and French Fries"
order ni FVR sa ingles.
"And you Sir? tanong ng waiter.
"The same, Give me sweepstake and first prize, too"
sagot ni Erap
Belief in others
09.30.2008
~Belief in Others. It can be your attitude; your resolve, that can lift someone up when they are down. Their doubt can be erased by your confidence. And something else amazing happens: belief is contagious – the more you believe in others; the more you will continue to believe in yourself~
~Belief in Others. It can be your attitude; your resolve, that can lift someone up when they are down. Their doubt can be erased by your confidence. And something else amazing happens: belief is contagious – the more you believe in others; the more you will continue to believe in yourself~
A NICE STORY TO SHARE
My mom only had one eye. I hated her... She was such an embarrassment. .
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
Say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only
Has one eye!'
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear..
I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a
Laughing stock, why don't you just die?'
My mom did not respond....
I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because
I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her..
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
Mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
Grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at
Her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my
Children!'
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'
And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
Gotten the wrong address,'
And she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.
'My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and
Scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
Growing up.
You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
Lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
Having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.
Send this to at least 10 people in the next 5 minutes to show you love your mother.
If you don't then it shows you have no heart
Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day
Will be their last, or your own.
Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones
Because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings
Peace...
'I asked God, 'How do I get the best out of life?'
God said, 'Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with
confidence. And prepare for the future without fear!'
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
Say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only
Has one eye!'
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear..
I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a
Laughing stock, why don't you just die?'
My mom did not respond....
I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because
I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her..
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
Mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
Grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at
Her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my
Children!'
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'
And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
Gotten the wrong address,'
And she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.
'My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and
Scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
Growing up.
You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
Lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
Having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.
Send this to at least 10 people in the next 5 minutes to show you love your mother.
If you don't then it shows you have no heart
Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day
Will be their last, or your own.
Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones
Because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings
Peace...
'I asked God, 'How do I get the best out of life?'
God said, 'Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with
confidence. And prepare for the future without fear!'
Love codes ni Erap
LOVE CODES sa panliligaw ni Erap,
mahilig siyang sumulat ng coded love
messages tulad ng:
ITALY - I truly adore and love you
SASAYA - Stay as Sweet as you are
Para lalong bumilib and kanyang nililigawan ,
sinikap niyang gumawa ng "love letter" na gamit and alphabet:
ABC - Always be carefulDEF - Don't Ever forget
GHI - Go Home Immediately
JKLM - Just Keep Loving Me
NOPQRSTUVW - No One Perfectly Quite Romantic Should Treat U Very Well
Napa-whew at pinagpawisan si Erap.
Tatlong titik na lang andnatitira...XYZ.
Pinag-isipan ito nang husto ni Erap.
Makalipas ang oras,napangiti siya at pinalakpakan ang kanyang sarili bago sinulat ang:
XYZ - Xee You Zoon!!
mahilig siyang sumulat ng coded love
messages tulad ng:
ITALY - I truly adore and love you
SASAYA - Stay as Sweet as you are
Para lalong bumilib and kanyang nililigawan ,
sinikap niyang gumawa ng "love letter" na gamit and alphabet:
ABC - Always be carefulDEF - Don't Ever forget
GHI - Go Home Immediately
JKLM - Just Keep Loving Me
NOPQRSTUVW - No One Perfectly Quite Romantic Should Treat U Very Well
Napa-whew at pinagpawisan si Erap.
Tatlong titik na lang andnatitira...XYZ.
Pinag-isipan ito nang husto ni Erap.
Makalipas ang oras,napangiti siya at pinalakpakan ang kanyang sarili bago sinulat ang:
XYZ - Xee You Zoon!!
How to Handle Criticism
by Real Simple, on Mon Oct 27, 2008 11:26am PDT
Think of criticism as a gift, then follow these steps, and you'll bestow and receive it with ease
Greg ClarkeI'll never forget the first performance review I ever received. I wish I could. I was 25 years old and a marketing planner at Avon (a company that I miraculously stayed with for more than 20 years), and it was a doozy. The review lasted 2 1/2 hours, and by the time it was over I had a terrible migraine, felt like throwing up, and asked my boss (we'll call him Ken) if I should leave the company.
What went wrong? Well, for one thing, Ken wasn't much older than I was, and he'd had about as much practice giving feedback as I'd had getting it. He quickly glossed over my single strong point and hammered away at my major weakness: "You're certainly creative, Gail. But you've got a lack of knowledge about the operational side of our business. A total lack of knowledge."
As for me, I was so busy taking everything personally and being appalled that I was so very far from perfect that I barely heard anything except the negative criticism. I can still remember the look on Ken's face when I asked if I should resign. He went white. I went home in tears and told my husband, Jim, that I would have to find another job. What a disaster!
It doesn't matter whether you're at work or at home ("You just can't seem to meet a deadline"; "Honey, you never put out the trash"). Giving -- and taking -- criticism is a tricky business. Chastise instead of motivate and the situation can backfire. On the receiving end, our instinct to bristle and get defensive can ruin a real opportunity to make a positive change. But, as with most things, it doesn't have to be hard.
The number one ingredient for success is to treat the "feedback moment" for what it is: a gift.
I mean, how amazing would it be if we actually had the power to see ourselves as others see us? We don't, of course, so we have to rely on others to give us feedback so we can catch a glimpse. Once you adopt the mind-set that criticism really is something to be given and received -- and to be grateful for -- the whole exchange can be, well, almost enjoyable. Here's how to make it work for you.
Three Steps for Taking Feedback
Step 1: Listen Up!
There's no way to overemphasize this point. Don't argue or take the "But that's not true, what about…?" stance. Remember -- just about everyone needs a little adjustment now and then.
At the Office: If you can, take notes so you can review them later. Look for the nuggets of wisdom. You don't have to agree with everything; just don't disagree out loud. You can always request another meeting if, after calm consideration, you want to revisit some points. (Even then, try not to complain. Take a positive approach: "These layoffs in our department are keeping us from getting work done on time. If you could be a little flexible about deadlines, that would be terrific.") (Learn What Not to Tell Your Boss.)
At Home: Recently, Abigail, our younger daughter, said, "Mom, when you tell a story, you go on and on. You need to get to the point sooner." I blurted out, "No, I don't," and explained why my method was right.
"Just trying to help," she said.
Don't do what I did. Assume the feedback giver has a good point and try his or her suggestion on for size.
Step 2: Resist The Temptation to Prove Them Wrong.
Look -- you can always get someone to call the feedback "bunk." And then you can decide not to make any changes at all. (Good luck with that approach.)
At the Office: Don't run to a coworker and say, "You're never going to believe what so-and-so said about me." You'll find plenty of people who will agree with you if you look for them. Don't look.
At Home: It's the same deal. The minute Abigail offered her critique of my storytelling, I ran to Jim, who, fearing for his life, said, "I think your stories are perfect the way they are." Giving me the perfect excuse to do nothing. (Learn How to Handle Sticky Parenting Situations.)
Step 3: Be Open to Making Significant Changes.
Maybe there are more effective ways for you to come across that are different from your standard act. And maybe you can learn some new skills and adopt some new techniques without compromising who you already are. You're not stuck with any one style of communicating, managing, or mothering. You can change anything, anytime you want to. And it just might be fun -- even rewarding.
At the Office: The key here is to think, Sure, I can do that. And then go ahead and say it. It will be music to your manager's ears.
At Home: Well, Abigail was right, as it turns out. And I'm working on it. I may have the gift of the gab, but she gave me a great gift with her feedback. And with that in mind, well, I'd better leave it right there.
Written by Gail Blanke for Real Simple.
Think of criticism as a gift, then follow these steps, and you'll bestow and receive it with ease
Greg ClarkeI'll never forget the first performance review I ever received. I wish I could. I was 25 years old and a marketing planner at Avon (a company that I miraculously stayed with for more than 20 years), and it was a doozy. The review lasted 2 1/2 hours, and by the time it was over I had a terrible migraine, felt like throwing up, and asked my boss (we'll call him Ken) if I should leave the company.
What went wrong? Well, for one thing, Ken wasn't much older than I was, and he'd had about as much practice giving feedback as I'd had getting it. He quickly glossed over my single strong point and hammered away at my major weakness: "You're certainly creative, Gail. But you've got a lack of knowledge about the operational side of our business. A total lack of knowledge."
As for me, I was so busy taking everything personally and being appalled that I was so very far from perfect that I barely heard anything except the negative criticism. I can still remember the look on Ken's face when I asked if I should resign. He went white. I went home in tears and told my husband, Jim, that I would have to find another job. What a disaster!
It doesn't matter whether you're at work or at home ("You just can't seem to meet a deadline"; "Honey, you never put out the trash"). Giving -- and taking -- criticism is a tricky business. Chastise instead of motivate and the situation can backfire. On the receiving end, our instinct to bristle and get defensive can ruin a real opportunity to make a positive change. But, as with most things, it doesn't have to be hard.
The number one ingredient for success is to treat the "feedback moment" for what it is: a gift.
I mean, how amazing would it be if we actually had the power to see ourselves as others see us? We don't, of course, so we have to rely on others to give us feedback so we can catch a glimpse. Once you adopt the mind-set that criticism really is something to be given and received -- and to be grateful for -- the whole exchange can be, well, almost enjoyable. Here's how to make it work for you.
Three Steps for Taking Feedback
Step 1: Listen Up!
There's no way to overemphasize this point. Don't argue or take the "But that's not true, what about…?" stance. Remember -- just about everyone needs a little adjustment now and then.
At the Office: If you can, take notes so you can review them later. Look for the nuggets of wisdom. You don't have to agree with everything; just don't disagree out loud. You can always request another meeting if, after calm consideration, you want to revisit some points. (Even then, try not to complain. Take a positive approach: "These layoffs in our department are keeping us from getting work done on time. If you could be a little flexible about deadlines, that would be terrific.") (Learn What Not to Tell Your Boss.)
At Home: Recently, Abigail, our younger daughter, said, "Mom, when you tell a story, you go on and on. You need to get to the point sooner." I blurted out, "No, I don't," and explained why my method was right.
"Just trying to help," she said.
Don't do what I did. Assume the feedback giver has a good point and try his or her suggestion on for size.
Step 2: Resist The Temptation to Prove Them Wrong.
Look -- you can always get someone to call the feedback "bunk." And then you can decide not to make any changes at all. (Good luck with that approach.)
At the Office: Don't run to a coworker and say, "You're never going to believe what so-and-so said about me." You'll find plenty of people who will agree with you if you look for them. Don't look.
At Home: It's the same deal. The minute Abigail offered her critique of my storytelling, I ran to Jim, who, fearing for his life, said, "I think your stories are perfect the way they are." Giving me the perfect excuse to do nothing. (Learn How to Handle Sticky Parenting Situations.)
Step 3: Be Open to Making Significant Changes.
Maybe there are more effective ways for you to come across that are different from your standard act. And maybe you can learn some new skills and adopt some new techniques without compromising who you already are. You're not stuck with any one style of communicating, managing, or mothering. You can change anything, anytime you want to. And it just might be fun -- even rewarding.
At the Office: The key here is to think, Sure, I can do that. And then go ahead and say it. It will be music to your manager's ears.
At Home: Well, Abigail was right, as it turns out. And I'm working on it. I may have the gift of the gab, but she gave me a great gift with her feedback. And with that in mind, well, I'd better leave it right there.
Written by Gail Blanke for Real Simple.
Avoid Diet Roadblocks
10 surprising reasons why you aren't losing when you should be—and what you can do about it
Nancy Gottesman
If losing weight were simple, Spanx would be just a screen name in an S&M chat room. But dieting is complicated: There are even ways to screw up without realizing it. For instance, who would ever think that working out in the a.m. or cranking the AC might be the reason you're not slimming down? Luckily, once you've I.D.'d these flubs, fixing them is nowhere near as hard as pulling on a pair of control-top hose.
Roadblock #1 Always a go-getter, you work out at 6 a.m.
What's wrong with that? Morning workouts are great—if you go to bed at 10 p.m. In a recent study in the American Journal of Epidemiology, women who slept 7 or more hours a night were less likely to put on weight than women who didn't. Those who slept only 6 hours a night were 12 percent more likely to gain substantial weight—33 pounds on average over the course of 16 years! (Women who slept a measly 5 hours had a 32 percent chance of gaining 30 or more pounds.) Other studies have linked lack of sleep to a higher BMI and have found that it negatively affects levels of the appetite-regulating hormones ghrelin and leptin.
Detour Don't sacrifice your snooze time—not even for an extra-long run. And quality matters more than quantity, so taking a siesta later won't help. "In a 20-minute power nap you don't get into the deep-sleep stage," says Donna Taliaferro, Ph.D., associate professor of nursing at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, who conducts research on sleep and circadian rhythms. "You need to go through the cycles of sleep over a few hours to get the restorative rest that allows your body to work properly." Bottom line: You're better off sleeping through your workout every other day than stumbling to a sunrise Pilates class on too few z's.
Roadblock #2 You're a teetotaler (or a sot!)
What's wrong with that? Alcohol may not be the diet kryptonite you thought it was. Recent research showed that those who have a single drink a couple times a week have a lower risk of becoming obese than either teetotalers or heavy drinkers. Those who consume more than four drinks daily, on the other hand, boost their odds of obesity by 46 percent.
Detour Go ahead and have a drink; just avoid belly-busters like a 245-calorie pina colada. Instead, raise a glass of heart-smart merlot (123 calories per 5 ounces), Bud Light (110 calories per 12 ounces), champagne (88 calories per 4 ounces), or sake (39 calories per ounce). Or mix a 100-calorie cocktail, like vodka and diet tonic or tequila and club soda. "Just make sure you drink it with some healthy food, such as raw veggies with low-fat dip or whole-wheat pita and hummus," advises Dawn Jackson Blatner, R.D., a spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Eating slows the rise of alcohol in your blood -- and cuts the odds you'll drunk-order the deep-fried mozzarella sticks.
Roadblock #3 You crank the AC
What's wrong with that? Al Gore wants you to lay off the thermostat to save the planet. Here's how it can save (the shape of) your own ass, too: In a study published in Physiology & Behavior, researchers found that exposure to temperatures above the "thermoneutral zone"—the artificial climate we create with clothes, heating, or air conditioning—decreases our appetite and food intake. "At a slightly uncomfortable 81 degrees, the women in the study experienced a 20 percent decrease in appetite and ate 10 percent less than at 72 degrees," says lead author Margriet S. Westerterp-Plantenga, Ph.D., a professor of food-intake regulation in the department of human biology at Maastricht University in the Netherlands.
Detour Instead of cranking the air conditioner every time you feel a little warm, learn to endure slightly steamier conditions. Hitting the "off" button is well worth a little discomfort if it helps you lose the saddlebags.
Roadblock #4 You log extra miles on the treadmill to make up for giant meals
What's wrong with that? When it comes to dieting, success isn't 90 percent perspiration. You can't achieve lasting weight loss via exercise alone. But a new study in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism found that dieting can shrink your fat zones just as effectively as dieting plus exercise.
Detour If you try the diet-only approach, you need a clear idea of how much you should be eating. Multiply your weight by 10, then add your weight again to that sum: That gives you the number of calories you need to maintain your current weight without activity. For example, 135 pounds x 10 = 1,350 + 135 = 1,485 calories. Eat more than that regularly, and your "loose-fit" pants won't anymore; eat less, and your muffin top will start melting away. But not so fast—before you burn your gym membership, read on about sarcopenia.
Roadblock #5 You ignore sarcopenia
What's wrong with that? Sarcopenia, in case you weren't paying attention to your medical TV dramas, is age-related muscle loss—and it can start in your 30s. If you don't take action now, you could begin to lose as much as 1 to 2 percent of your muscle mass by the time you hit 50. Less muscle means you burn fewer calories and store more of them as fat.
Detour The key to stopping muscle meltdown is to strengthen your back, shoulders, arms, and thighs. "When you increase lean muscle mass, you burn more calories, even when you're sitting down doing nothing," says Amy Campbell, M.S., R.D., education program manager for health care services at the Joslin Diabetes Center of the Harvard Medical School. Find a strength workout in "Secrets of the Nation's Top Trainers" (page 128) and start sculpting at least twice a week. And keep it up after you reach your goal weight: Studies show that if you don't exercise regularly (60 minutes of moderate physical activity a day), the pounds can creep back on.
Roadblock #6 You're shooting for a realistic size 6 instead of a near-impossible 2
What's wrong with that? We know size 2 jeans look like they were made for a 10-year-old, but, according to a study of 1,801 people published in the International Journal of Obesity, women who set unrealistically high weight-loss goals dropped more weight in 24 months than those who kept their expectations low.
Detour The study authors concluded that having an optimistic goal motivated women to lose more weight. And the participants who failed to reach their magic number did not quit trying to drop the weight. Could aiming for Sienna Miller's figure really help you reach your goal weight healthfully? "If you're a driven person and a lofty goal motivates you," says Blatner, "it can work."
Roadblock #7 Ever since the recent headlines, you've been popping M&Ms like they're AdvilWhat's wrong with that? You've heard the news: Cocoa can lower blood pressure; reduce the risk of heart attack, stroke, diabetes, and dementia; and possibly even prevent cancer. But the research isn't as delicious as it seems. The cocoa-bean products used in the studies are a far cry from the highly processed chocolate candy you find on the shelves of your local store. "Milk chocolate contains about 150 calories and 10 grams of fat per ounce," says Campbell.
Detour The key here is small doses. Dark chocolate, which retains more of the bean during processing, generally has slightly less fat and fewer calories than milk chocolate—plus, it's richer, so less goes a longer way. We like CocoaVia's Crispy Chocolate Bar (90 calories, 5 g fat) or Hershey's Special Dark Chocolate Stick (60 calories, 3.5 g fat). If dark doesn't do it for you, opt for low-cal choices such as a half-cup of Breyers French Chocolate Double Churn Fat Free Ice Cream (90 calories, 0 fat).
Roadblock #8 You think "water-rich diet" means more trips to the cooler
What's wrong with that? Water in your glass is good, but water in your food can have serious slimming power. In a new American Journal of Clinical Nutrition study, obese women ages 20 to 60 were told to either reduce their fat intake or increase their intake of water-rich foods, such as fruits and veggies. Although they ate more, women in the water-rich group chose foods that were more filling—yet had fewer calories—so they still lost 33 percent more weight in the first 6 months than the women in the reduced-fat group.
Detour Fill up on food that's high in H2O. Some good choices in addition to fruits and veggies: broth-based, low-sodium soups; oatmeal and other whole grains; and beans. For other filling options, consult The Volumetrics Eating Plan: Techniques and Recipes for Feeling Full on Fewer Calories, by Barbara Rolls, Ph.D. (Harper Paperbacks, 2007).
Roadblock #9 You give up junk food today but put off joining a gym until January
What's wrong with that? Tackling one goal at a time is supposed to help you succeed. But new research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine bucks that conventional wisdom. In a study of more than 200 people who smoked, had high blood pressure, and weren't extremely active, one group was asked to quit the butts, cut back on dietary sodium, and increase physical activity all at once. Another group addressed one bad habit at a time. The group that tackled all their problems simultaneously had the higher success rate after 18 months.
Detour Combining your goals may work for the same reason job negotiations do: When you ask for everything, you're more likely to get something. Put this thinking to the test by creating a healthy eating and exercise plan and throwing all your energy into following both.
Roadblock #10 You never think about potassium
What's wrong with that? A recent Canadian study concluded that getting more potassium might help lower your weight and blood pressure. Levels measured in study participants were proportional to their diet and weight. "That makes sense," says Blatner. "The richest sources of potassium are beans, vegetables, and fruit, so the person with high potassium levels is consuming a lot of these foods, which are low in calories and are the most filling."
Detour You should aim for 4,700 milligrams of potassium each day. Supplements may help you hit that target, but doctors don't recommend them for everyone. Try filling up on white beans (1 cup: 1,000 mg potassium), winter squash (1 cup: 494 mg), spinach (1 cup: 840 mg), baked potato with skin (926 mg), yogurt (1 cup: 600 mg), halibut (4 ounces: 566 mg), and OJ (1 cup: 473 mg).
Nancy Gottesman
If losing weight were simple, Spanx would be just a screen name in an S&M chat room. But dieting is complicated: There are even ways to screw up without realizing it. For instance, who would ever think that working out in the a.m. or cranking the AC might be the reason you're not slimming down? Luckily, once you've I.D.'d these flubs, fixing them is nowhere near as hard as pulling on a pair of control-top hose.
Roadblock #1 Always a go-getter, you work out at 6 a.m.
What's wrong with that? Morning workouts are great—if you go to bed at 10 p.m. In a recent study in the American Journal of Epidemiology, women who slept 7 or more hours a night were less likely to put on weight than women who didn't. Those who slept only 6 hours a night were 12 percent more likely to gain substantial weight—33 pounds on average over the course of 16 years! (Women who slept a measly 5 hours had a 32 percent chance of gaining 30 or more pounds.) Other studies have linked lack of sleep to a higher BMI and have found that it negatively affects levels of the appetite-regulating hormones ghrelin and leptin.
Detour Don't sacrifice your snooze time—not even for an extra-long run. And quality matters more than quantity, so taking a siesta later won't help. "In a 20-minute power nap you don't get into the deep-sleep stage," says Donna Taliaferro, Ph.D., associate professor of nursing at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, who conducts research on sleep and circadian rhythms. "You need to go through the cycles of sleep over a few hours to get the restorative rest that allows your body to work properly." Bottom line: You're better off sleeping through your workout every other day than stumbling to a sunrise Pilates class on too few z's.
Roadblock #2 You're a teetotaler (or a sot!)
What's wrong with that? Alcohol may not be the diet kryptonite you thought it was. Recent research showed that those who have a single drink a couple times a week have a lower risk of becoming obese than either teetotalers or heavy drinkers. Those who consume more than four drinks daily, on the other hand, boost their odds of obesity by 46 percent.
Detour Go ahead and have a drink; just avoid belly-busters like a 245-calorie pina colada. Instead, raise a glass of heart-smart merlot (123 calories per 5 ounces), Bud Light (110 calories per 12 ounces), champagne (88 calories per 4 ounces), or sake (39 calories per ounce). Or mix a 100-calorie cocktail, like vodka and diet tonic or tequila and club soda. "Just make sure you drink it with some healthy food, such as raw veggies with low-fat dip or whole-wheat pita and hummus," advises Dawn Jackson Blatner, R.D., a spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Eating slows the rise of alcohol in your blood -- and cuts the odds you'll drunk-order the deep-fried mozzarella sticks.
Roadblock #3 You crank the AC
What's wrong with that? Al Gore wants you to lay off the thermostat to save the planet. Here's how it can save (the shape of) your own ass, too: In a study published in Physiology & Behavior, researchers found that exposure to temperatures above the "thermoneutral zone"—the artificial climate we create with clothes, heating, or air conditioning—decreases our appetite and food intake. "At a slightly uncomfortable 81 degrees, the women in the study experienced a 20 percent decrease in appetite and ate 10 percent less than at 72 degrees," says lead author Margriet S. Westerterp-Plantenga, Ph.D., a professor of food-intake regulation in the department of human biology at Maastricht University in the Netherlands.
Detour Instead of cranking the air conditioner every time you feel a little warm, learn to endure slightly steamier conditions. Hitting the "off" button is well worth a little discomfort if it helps you lose the saddlebags.
Roadblock #4 You log extra miles on the treadmill to make up for giant meals
What's wrong with that? When it comes to dieting, success isn't 90 percent perspiration. You can't achieve lasting weight loss via exercise alone. But a new study in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism found that dieting can shrink your fat zones just as effectively as dieting plus exercise.
Detour If you try the diet-only approach, you need a clear idea of how much you should be eating. Multiply your weight by 10, then add your weight again to that sum: That gives you the number of calories you need to maintain your current weight without activity. For example, 135 pounds x 10 = 1,350 + 135 = 1,485 calories. Eat more than that regularly, and your "loose-fit" pants won't anymore; eat less, and your muffin top will start melting away. But not so fast—before you burn your gym membership, read on about sarcopenia.
Roadblock #5 You ignore sarcopenia
What's wrong with that? Sarcopenia, in case you weren't paying attention to your medical TV dramas, is age-related muscle loss—and it can start in your 30s. If you don't take action now, you could begin to lose as much as 1 to 2 percent of your muscle mass by the time you hit 50. Less muscle means you burn fewer calories and store more of them as fat.
Detour The key to stopping muscle meltdown is to strengthen your back, shoulders, arms, and thighs. "When you increase lean muscle mass, you burn more calories, even when you're sitting down doing nothing," says Amy Campbell, M.S., R.D., education program manager for health care services at the Joslin Diabetes Center of the Harvard Medical School. Find a strength workout in "Secrets of the Nation's Top Trainers" (page 128) and start sculpting at least twice a week. And keep it up after you reach your goal weight: Studies show that if you don't exercise regularly (60 minutes of moderate physical activity a day), the pounds can creep back on.
Roadblock #6 You're shooting for a realistic size 6 instead of a near-impossible 2
What's wrong with that? We know size 2 jeans look like they were made for a 10-year-old, but, according to a study of 1,801 people published in the International Journal of Obesity, women who set unrealistically high weight-loss goals dropped more weight in 24 months than those who kept their expectations low.
Detour The study authors concluded that having an optimistic goal motivated women to lose more weight. And the participants who failed to reach their magic number did not quit trying to drop the weight. Could aiming for Sienna Miller's figure really help you reach your goal weight healthfully? "If you're a driven person and a lofty goal motivates you," says Blatner, "it can work."
Roadblock #7 Ever since the recent headlines, you've been popping M&Ms like they're AdvilWhat's wrong with that? You've heard the news: Cocoa can lower blood pressure; reduce the risk of heart attack, stroke, diabetes, and dementia; and possibly even prevent cancer. But the research isn't as delicious as it seems. The cocoa-bean products used in the studies are a far cry from the highly processed chocolate candy you find on the shelves of your local store. "Milk chocolate contains about 150 calories and 10 grams of fat per ounce," says Campbell.
Detour The key here is small doses. Dark chocolate, which retains more of the bean during processing, generally has slightly less fat and fewer calories than milk chocolate—plus, it's richer, so less goes a longer way. We like CocoaVia's Crispy Chocolate Bar (90 calories, 5 g fat) or Hershey's Special Dark Chocolate Stick (60 calories, 3.5 g fat). If dark doesn't do it for you, opt for low-cal choices such as a half-cup of Breyers French Chocolate Double Churn Fat Free Ice Cream (90 calories, 0 fat).
Roadblock #8 You think "water-rich diet" means more trips to the cooler
What's wrong with that? Water in your glass is good, but water in your food can have serious slimming power. In a new American Journal of Clinical Nutrition study, obese women ages 20 to 60 were told to either reduce their fat intake or increase their intake of water-rich foods, such as fruits and veggies. Although they ate more, women in the water-rich group chose foods that were more filling—yet had fewer calories—so they still lost 33 percent more weight in the first 6 months than the women in the reduced-fat group.
Detour Fill up on food that's high in H2O. Some good choices in addition to fruits and veggies: broth-based, low-sodium soups; oatmeal and other whole grains; and beans. For other filling options, consult The Volumetrics Eating Plan: Techniques and Recipes for Feeling Full on Fewer Calories, by Barbara Rolls, Ph.D. (Harper Paperbacks, 2007).
Roadblock #9 You give up junk food today but put off joining a gym until January
What's wrong with that? Tackling one goal at a time is supposed to help you succeed. But new research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine bucks that conventional wisdom. In a study of more than 200 people who smoked, had high blood pressure, and weren't extremely active, one group was asked to quit the butts, cut back on dietary sodium, and increase physical activity all at once. Another group addressed one bad habit at a time. The group that tackled all their problems simultaneously had the higher success rate after 18 months.
Detour Combining your goals may work for the same reason job negotiations do: When you ask for everything, you're more likely to get something. Put this thinking to the test by creating a healthy eating and exercise plan and throwing all your energy into following both.
Roadblock #10 You never think about potassium
What's wrong with that? A recent Canadian study concluded that getting more potassium might help lower your weight and blood pressure. Levels measured in study participants were proportional to their diet and weight. "That makes sense," says Blatner. "The richest sources of potassium are beans, vegetables, and fruit, so the person with high potassium levels is consuming a lot of these foods, which are low in calories and are the most filling."
Detour You should aim for 4,700 milligrams of potassium each day. Supplements may help you hit that target, but doctors don't recommend them for everyone. Try filling up on white beans (1 cup: 1,000 mg potassium), winter squash (1 cup: 494 mg), spinach (1 cup: 840 mg), baked potato with skin (926 mg), yogurt (1 cup: 600 mg), halibut (4 ounces: 566 mg), and OJ (1 cup: 473 mg).
View Point Inn & Restaurant in Tagaytay
My husband's family went to Tagaytay for a simple get-together last weekend. We stayed at Viewpoint Inn, a few kms from the rotonda and in a quieter part of the city. The place seemed perfect for a relaxing weekend. We booked a big non-airconditioned room (good as aircon with the windows open) which was comfortable enough to fit about 20 of us. Above it was a viewdeck where we ate dinner while enjoying a good view of Lake Taal . After the kwentuhan has died down and the children's energies got all used up, lights went dim and everyone was asleep by 2:00a.m. It was Turo's brother who locked the doors before he went to sleep.
At around 3:00a.m., barely an hour after, Billy, the househelp of Turo's cousin woke Tito Art (of UPLB's Batcave fame) pointing towards the backdoor where he saw a man scurrying out carrying with him several of our bags. The man realized he was seen and left the bags so he could escape. The lights went on and everyone was awake again except for the kids. Three celphones, one bag and Turo's walking shorts with his wallet were found missing. We called the police and also the attention of the Inn 's owner.
The Tagaytay Police arrived shortly. Billy recounted to the police what he saw: that earlier on a man was already observing our room from outside, and later the same person entered the room through an open window and crawled his way into a corner where all the missing items were placed, then snuck out through the back door. Billy positively identified the man as one of the helpers of Viewpoint Inn, whom he was able to have a short conversation with in the early evening The Inn 's owner, on the other hand, took more than an hour to walk from his house which was a few steps away. He was immediately defensive upon learning that one of his helpers was a suspect to the robbery. Of course it was natural for him to protect his "employees" (we later found out that the helpers who worked the night shift weren't exactly employees of the Inn but "tambays" who assisted visitors during their stay and get as their income the tips they receive from the customers), but we also expected him to take accountability for the incident as it happened within the vicinity of Viewpoint Inn, which he did not.
Turo, his dad, sister and brother, who owned the missing items, and Billy, the witness, went to the police station to give a statement while the rest of us waited in the Inn. The Inn 's owner also came along. The police urged the owner to agree to a settlement, which we are open to so as to avoid the hassle of police procedures but the Inn 's owner did not want to. In the end, three counts of robbery were filed against the Inn 's helper who would be detained for 15 days while the police continued the investigation and hearings were scheduled etc.
When they got back, we were all too tired, sleepless and upset about what happened so we packed our things and decided to go home. On our way out, one of the helpers stopped us and asked us to settle our bill (we have only paid 50% downpayment upon check-in). And although we no longer wanted to pay them after our horrible experience at their inn, we were civil enough to pay the remaining half. We don't know if the owners were crazy, insensitive or mukha lang talaga silang pera because they even charged us an additional P200/head because we exceeded the room capacity. We were not informed that the room has a maximum capacity limit, to begin with. In fact, the Inn offered such poor service that aside from the lack of security, their office was already closed after 7 or 8pm. Add to this the management's practice of getting tambays to man the Inn, not paying their services and expecting the customers to give them tips for a living. No wonder their helpers would resort to stealing from the visitors. The management of Viewpoint Inn is obviously accountable for what had happened but they refuse to take responsibility.
Viewpoint Inn & Restaurant in Tagaytay is not accredited by the Department of Tourism. I doubt if they could get one as they obviously don't meet the minimum accreditation standards set by DOT. A sign on their door says they are accredited by the Tagaytay Tourism Council, but, of course, we would be utilizing our contacts to have them de-listed.
Our weekend in Viewpoint Inn Tagaytay was such a dreadful experience that I had to write this down and send to all of you. It was bad enough that some of our stuff were stolen, but the fact that they were stolen with all of us there makes me think that all of our lives were also at risk that certain time, not just our belongings. So if you and your family or your friends are planning a trip to Tagaytay, please stay away from Viewpoint Inn.
I would not want you to end up the same way we did. Kindly tell your friends about this.
Thanks a lot.
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At around 3:00a.m., barely an hour after, Billy, the househelp of Turo's cousin woke Tito Art (of UPLB's Batcave fame) pointing towards the backdoor where he saw a man scurrying out carrying with him several of our bags. The man realized he was seen and left the bags so he could escape. The lights went on and everyone was awake again except for the kids. Three celphones, one bag and Turo's walking shorts with his wallet were found missing. We called the police and also the attention of the Inn 's owner.
The Tagaytay Police arrived shortly. Billy recounted to the police what he saw: that earlier on a man was already observing our room from outside, and later the same person entered the room through an open window and crawled his way into a corner where all the missing items were placed, then snuck out through the back door. Billy positively identified the man as one of the helpers of Viewpoint Inn, whom he was able to have a short conversation with in the early evening The Inn 's owner, on the other hand, took more than an hour to walk from his house which was a few steps away. He was immediately defensive upon learning that one of his helpers was a suspect to the robbery. Of course it was natural for him to protect his "employees" (we later found out that the helpers who worked the night shift weren't exactly employees of the Inn but "tambays" who assisted visitors during their stay and get as their income the tips they receive from the customers), but we also expected him to take accountability for the incident as it happened within the vicinity of Viewpoint Inn, which he did not.
Turo, his dad, sister and brother, who owned the missing items, and Billy, the witness, went to the police station to give a statement while the rest of us waited in the Inn. The Inn 's owner also came along. The police urged the owner to agree to a settlement, which we are open to so as to avoid the hassle of police procedures but the Inn 's owner did not want to. In the end, three counts of robbery were filed against the Inn 's helper who would be detained for 15 days while the police continued the investigation and hearings were scheduled etc.
When they got back, we were all too tired, sleepless and upset about what happened so we packed our things and decided to go home. On our way out, one of the helpers stopped us and asked us to settle our bill (we have only paid 50% downpayment upon check-in). And although we no longer wanted to pay them after our horrible experience at their inn, we were civil enough to pay the remaining half. We don't know if the owners were crazy, insensitive or mukha lang talaga silang pera because they even charged us an additional P200/head because we exceeded the room capacity. We were not informed that the room has a maximum capacity limit, to begin with. In fact, the Inn offered such poor service that aside from the lack of security, their office was already closed after 7 or 8pm. Add to this the management's practice of getting tambays to man the Inn, not paying their services and expecting the customers to give them tips for a living. No wonder their helpers would resort to stealing from the visitors. The management of Viewpoint Inn is obviously accountable for what had happened but they refuse to take responsibility.
Viewpoint Inn & Restaurant in Tagaytay is not accredited by the Department of Tourism. I doubt if they could get one as they obviously don't meet the minimum accreditation standards set by DOT. A sign on their door says they are accredited by the Tagaytay Tourism Council, but, of course, we would be utilizing our contacts to have them de-listed.
Our weekend in Viewpoint Inn Tagaytay was such a dreadful experience that I had to write this down and send to all of you. It was bad enough that some of our stuff were stolen, but the fact that they were stolen with all of us there makes me think that all of our lives were also at risk that certain time, not just our belongings. So if you and your family or your friends are planning a trip to Tagaytay, please stay away from Viewpoint Inn.
I would not want you to end up the same way we did. Kindly tell your friends about this.
Thanks a lot.
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Pancake Mix-expired
THIS IS NOT A JOKE!!!!!!!!
Health warning...
WARNING ABOUT Pancake Mix (and other boxed mixes) Maybe you already know this, I DID NOT !!
Throw away ALL OUTDATED pancake mix you have in your home, PLEASE! If you don't believe me, read this article and then follow the 'Link' below to SNOPES. Sorry to be the Grim Reaper of bad news, but I would rather have you ALIVE, besides a $2.00 box of pancake mix is NOT worth your life.
P. S. You might want totell this to your children, grandchildren, nephews, nieces and anyone else who keeps pancake mix in the cupboard.
From Snopes:
Dear Abby: I recently made a batch of pancakes for my healthy 14-year-old son, using a mix that was in our pantry. He said that they tasted 'funny,' but ate them anyway. About 10 minutes later, he began having difficulty breathing and his lips began turning purple. I gave him his allergy pill, had him sit on the sofa and told him to relax. He was wheezing while inhaling and exhaling.
My husband, a volunteer Firefighter and EMT, heated up some water, and we had my son lean over the water so the steam could clear his chest and sinuses. Soon, his breathing became more regular and his lips returned to a more normal clor. We checked the date on the box of pancake mix and, to my dismay, found it was very outdated. As a reference librarian at an academic institution, I have the ability to search through many research databases. I did just that, and found an article the next day that mentioned a 19-year-old male DYING after eating pancakes made with outdated mix. Apparently, the mold that forms in old pancake mix can be toxic!
When we told our friends about my son's close call, we were surprised at the number of people who mentioned that they should check their own pancake mix since they don't use it often, or they had purchased it some time a go. With so many people shopping at warehouse-type stores and buying large sizes of pancake mix, I hope your readers will take the time to check the expiration date on their boxes.
Also, beware of outdated Bisquick, cake, brownie and cookie mixes.
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Health warning...
WARNING ABOUT Pancake Mix (and other boxed mixes) Maybe you already know this, I DID NOT !!
Throw away ALL OUTDATED pancake mix you have in your home, PLEASE! If you don't believe me, read this article and then follow the 'Link' below to SNOPES. Sorry to be the Grim Reaper of bad news, but I would rather have you ALIVE, besides a $2.00 box of pancake mix is NOT worth your life.
P. S. You might want totell this to your children, grandchildren, nephews, nieces and anyone else who keeps pancake mix in the cupboard.
From Snopes:
Dear Abby: I recently made a batch of pancakes for my healthy 14-year-old son, using a mix that was in our pantry. He said that they tasted 'funny,' but ate them anyway. About 10 minutes later, he began having difficulty breathing and his lips began turning purple. I gave him his allergy pill, had him sit on the sofa and told him to relax. He was wheezing while inhaling and exhaling.
My husband, a volunteer Firefighter and EMT, heated up some water, and we had my son lean over the water so the steam could clear his chest and sinuses. Soon, his breathing became more regular and his lips returned to a more normal clor. We checked the date on the box of pancake mix and, to my dismay, found it was very outdated. As a reference librarian at an academic institution, I have the ability to search through many research databases. I did just that, and found an article the next day that mentioned a 19-year-old male DYING after eating pancakes made with outdated mix. Apparently, the mold that forms in old pancake mix can be toxic!
When we told our friends about my son's close call, we were surprised at the number of people who mentioned that they should check their own pancake mix since they don't use it often, or they had purchased it some time a go. With so many people shopping at warehouse-type stores and buying large sizes of pancake mix, I hope your readers will take the time to check the expiration date on their boxes.
Also, beware of outdated Bisquick, cake, brownie and cookie mixes.
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Mean Moms
Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent,
I will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me:
I loved you enough to ask where you were going,
with whom, and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for
two hours while you cleaned your room,
a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children
must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all.
I'm glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.
Was your Mom mean?
I know mine was.
We had the meanest mother in the whole world!
While other kids ate candy for breakfast,
we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch,
we had to eat sandwiches.
And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times.
You'd think we were convicts in a prison.
She had to know who our friends were
and what we were doing with them.
She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
We were ashamed to admit it,
but she had the nerve to break
the Child Labor Laws by making us work.
We had to wash the dishes, make the beds,
learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry,
empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs.
I think she would lie awake at night
thinking of more things for us to do.
She always insisted on us telling the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
By the time we were teenagers,
she could read our minds
and had eyes in the back of her head.
Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk
the horn when they drove up
They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them.
While everyone else could date
when they were 12 or 13,
we had to wait until we were 16.
Because of our mother we missed out
on lots of things other kids experienced.
None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime.
It was all her fault.
Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults.
We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.
I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
understand the logic that motivates a parent,
I will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me:
I loved you enough to ask where you were going,
with whom, and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for
two hours while you cleaned your room,
a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children
must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all.
I'm glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.
Was your Mom mean?
I know mine was.
We had the meanest mother in the whole world!
While other kids ate candy for breakfast,
we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch,
we had to eat sandwiches.
And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times.
You'd think we were convicts in a prison.
She had to know who our friends were
and what we were doing with them.
She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
We were ashamed to admit it,
but she had the nerve to break
the Child Labor Laws by making us work.
We had to wash the dishes, make the beds,
learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry,
empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs.
I think she would lie awake at night
thinking of more things for us to do.
She always insisted on us telling the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
By the time we were teenagers,
she could read our minds
and had eyes in the back of her head.
Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk
the horn when they drove up
They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them.
While everyone else could date
when they were 12 or 13,
we had to wait until we were 16.
Because of our mother we missed out
on lots of things other kids experienced.
None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime.
It was all her fault.
Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults.
We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.
I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
A NICE STORY TO SHARE
My mom only had one eye. I hated her... She was such an embarrassment.
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
Say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only
Has one eye!'
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear..
I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a
Laughing stock, why don't you just die?'
My mom did not respond....I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her..
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
Mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
Grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her,
and I yelled at Her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my
Children!'
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'
And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
Gotten the wrong address,'And she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.'
My dearest son,I think of you all the time.
I'm sorry that I came to your house and
Scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
Growing up.
You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
Lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
Having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.
Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day will be their last, or your own. Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones. Because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings Peace...
'I asked God, 'How do I get the best out of life?'God said, 'Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with confidence. And prepare for the future without fear!'
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
Say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only
Has one eye!'
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear..
I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a
Laughing stock, why don't you just die?'
My mom did not respond....I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her..
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
Mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
Grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her,
and I yelled at Her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my
Children!'
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'
And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
Gotten the wrong address,'And she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.'
My dearest son,I think of you all the time.
I'm sorry that I came to your house and
Scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
Growing up.
You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
Lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
Having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.
Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day will be their last, or your own. Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones. Because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings Peace...
'I asked God, 'How do I get the best out of life?'God said, 'Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with confidence. And prepare for the future without fear!'
Blood Clots/Stroke
Blood Clots/Stroke - They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue.
I will continue to forward this every time it comes around!
STROKE:Remember
The 1st Three Letters....S.T.R.
My nurse friend sent this and encouraged me to post it and spread the word. I agree.
If everyone can remember something this simple, we could save some folks.
Seriously..
Please read:
STROKE IDENTIFICATION:
During a BBQ, a friend stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) ... she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Ingrid went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening.
Ingrid's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital-(at 6:00 p. m. Ingrid passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Ingrid would be with us today.
Some don't die ... they end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this...
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hour she can totally reverse the effects of a stroke ..totally.
He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.
RECOGNIZING A STROKE
Thank God for the sense to remember the '3' steps, STR. Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke .
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE
(Coherently) (i.e. It is sunny out today)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call 911 immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke -------- Stick out Your Tongue
NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this: Ask the person to 'stick' out his tongue... If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.
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I will continue to forward this every time it comes around!
STROKE:Remember
The 1st Three Letters....S.T.R.
My nurse friend sent this and encouraged me to post it and spread the word. I agree.
If everyone can remember something this simple, we could save some folks.
Seriously..
Please read:
STROKE IDENTIFICATION:
During a BBQ, a friend stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) ... she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Ingrid went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening.
Ingrid's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital-(at 6:00 p. m. Ingrid passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Ingrid would be with us today.
Some don't die ... they end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this...
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hour she can totally reverse the effects of a stroke ..totally.
He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.
RECOGNIZING A STROKE
Thank God for the sense to remember the '3' steps, STR. Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke .
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE
(Coherently) (i.e. It is sunny out today)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call 911 immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke -------- Stick out Your Tongue
NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this: Ask the person to 'stick' out his tongue... If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.
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